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Im not searching for a new job but an acquaintance reached out about a similar role at a similar energy company.Turns out 2 ppl threw my name in the hat. I looked into it and the position was posted 2 weeks ago.Their director wants to meet.I bet pay is one of the first things to be discussed so that no one’s time is wasted.Am I crazy for not wanting to entertain it for less than 20-25% base pay increase?Is it selfish to ask for more? I’m sure most salary conversations end in negotiation anyways?
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Went through this exact situation and learned a lot. I went about it all wrong, very me, me, me focused. Looking back, I wish I brought it up BEFORE the opportunity arose, but either way, I would still ask their thoughts, let them think on it because it is a lot to process. And then discuss a day or two later and make it a group decision. What's most important to you? Career growth or a strong marriage where voices are heard?
You don’t have to drop the news like a bomb, ease them in. I kept it honest early on: “This came up, I’m curious, but I need to know what would make it work for us.” If there's even remote potential, use that to bridge the gap. I always research the place, area and share my results then I start talking about the possibility for a change and let him give his opnion.
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I was 100% upfront about everything, as I believe should be the case. My wife had her reservations, which I ignored, so we moved halfway across the country. Two years later, I found myself looking for a new job, not long after buying a new house.
Here it is three years later, and we are still riding out the waves from that splash. Had I been more open to her point of view, things probably would have been smoother for both my career and our marriage.
Don't lie to yourself by saying that this decision has nothing to do with your spouse.