Hi all, when do y’all think is a good time to have the “what are we”/“are we exclusive” talk? After how many dates?

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2-3 months ish. One could argue for 1 month depending on the level of communication / expectation that had already been set / the amount of time you are together and see each other

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Immediately after the first sleepover, because I do not want to exchange body fluids with other people indirectly.

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Depends on time spent together but I would go exclusive pretty early on. But it depends on both of your definition of a relationship. One might think you now have to go on every trip together or invited to Christmas dinner, so have that convo first and lead it into this one

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How long have you been dating? Are you M or F? If F I’d suggest wait for him to initiate that conversation

For me, 2nd date

Thanks everyone for your advice! Would love to hear more. For some context, we have been dating for about 1 month and have probably gone on about 3 to 4 dates. Even visited his place and no not to exchange bodily fluids but just to spend time together

It might not be a bad idea to have that talk eventually then. You can also enforce a policy of no sex unless you are exclusive with them. Which is not a bad policy to have imo

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As soon as I know that I wouldn’t want the person to be seeing other people and when I would be uncomfortable with just casual dates. That’s when I would ask.

Thank you all! I think, I will spend a little more time with him before dropping a casual “What should we do” as a kickstarter to the conversation.

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