I am constantly made a target of retaliation by my boss. I used to do all her work, plus my work, train clients in other countries, etc. And I did so with minimal complaint and zero help. I got told by my boss that when I ask questions I need to stop “attacking her”. Which then led to me not asking anything for months. And today is a perfect example-I followed protocol, did what the client asked, and completed my job. My boss then sent me a snarky message because nothing is good enough for her.

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with your job skills I would seriously consider looking for another job. It’s not going to magically get better.

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If you haven’t brought this up to HR, you should.
That being said, if it were me, I’d find a new job.

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AM1 HR is terrible advice. Finding a new job is the way.

Your boss’s behavior is straight up disrespectful. Take a week off, no contact. Rest, reset and update your resume. Start applying

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+1 for this

Toxic bosses and work environments don’t change

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Nothing is ever good enough for her because she has to find something wrong with what you do because she's threatened. You are experiencing the pet to threat. This is when you start out and people don't really know what you're capable of doing and how good you are you are their pet, but when they find out that you are really good at what you do and can run circles around them you become a threat so they nitpick and fine any little thing to complain about your work. From this point forward please make sure you document everything to cover your butt

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The gaslighting and bullying by a manager doesn’t go away. HR tows the corporate line and you will find yourself the target of micro aggressions and retaliation if you bring your concerns forward. I am sorry you are going through this. Document everything and start looking for your next opportunity.

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This is a constant battle with my boss, it’s a never ending battle of belittling or petty remarks. Sometimes she does them in a group chat for the entire team to read- it’s embarrassing!

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Isn’t that what they tell us to do in all the mandatory training videos? Call the Ethics line- she’s belittling. Have evidence.

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From woman to woman (I think?) I'm so sorry for what you're going through. Early in my career I had so many terrible women supervisors that it actually made me not want to work for women. As a society I wish that we could do better. I come from the "treat others how you want to be treated" era so it's hard for me to relate to the competitive nature so many people tend to fabricate.

I'm with the others - start looking for a new opportunity. In my experience, telling HR doesn't do a lot of good and just makes you more miserable in the long run.

Right now I'm working with a peer and the way she speaks to people is awful! On a call today she actually asked if this person was new to the company or new to the project because there was a miscommunication. Who does that? Perhaps it's partially cultural on her part, but the disrespect drives me crazy. I've only been working with her for a month and I'm trying my best to navigate her style of work. I don't care if she doesn't like me (or people in general), but she NEEDS to have respect for all.

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I sent her proof of the clients request because she didn’t believe that they wanted me to send them the work when I wasn’t 100% done. But the client wanted just what I had completed so far. So i attached the document, sent it, and CC’d my boss on the email. I got a snarky message back saying I needed to send it to some department. Myself nor my colleagues have ever heard of the department she mentioned and I was genuinely left DUMBFOUNDED.

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Long story short I asked her going forward who am I to send the work to? The client who already received the document or this supposed department- guess which she said? THE CLIENT I ALREADY SENT THE WORK TO. I couldn’t believe it.

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HR and then be ready for more retaliation. Need a new boss or new job

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Sorry you’re going through this. I recently worked with a similar boss for a year thinking I’d win her over. Didn’t work for me.

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OP, retaliation has a specific definition, and I’m not seeing anything that rises to that level, and what you shared

Nonetheless, this is a difficult situation and I’m sorry you’re going through it. It’s time to look for a new job. As you companies are interviewing you, make sure you are interviewing the companies as well. Ask meaningful questions to make sure that potential hiring managers are a good fit for your work in style and vice versa.

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HR is not your friend and they will side with management. Time to look for another job. Sounds like she’s been getting away with this for awhile, possibly gaslighting you.

I would still bring it up to HR and document EVERYTHING in detail.

A snarky boss will force you to get stronger; when you're strong enough you can kick her out! Cheer up!

If you’re gonna post nonsense like this, then you probably want to make sure you post anonymously

Yes, get another job as soon as possible

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