I get so jealous of my husband's ability to be completely unbothered by anything! But I also appreciate the calm energy, very much needed in this hectic house lol. Anyone else have these conflicting feelings?

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Men operate at different level and somehow lack of visibilty is considered as calmness which may not be true for every time.
Boys have dynamic life since childhood meaning they are exposed early outside then girls and somehow they evolve and can process their emotions differently. Being a man I feel the world is already chaotic and there's quite a few things that would trigger my emotions at any point of time.
We had fun
We had breakups
We seek trouble
We also fail to express true emotions and project calmness even though it's an absolute thunderstorm inside.

It's just different emotional response
But yeah we express less

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lol at boys are exposed early.. doesn’t apply in younger generations my friend.

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From the husband’s perspective: my anxiety is through the roof (and I take two different meds for it) but anxiety also exhausts me and the more stressed and overwhelmed I am the harder I sleep at night. Doesn’t mean I’m not bothered, it just means my body reacts differently.

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Same! When I’m stressed out I get overwhelmingly exhausted. One time I got trapped in an elevator. I fell asleep and woke up when the fire department pried the doors open LOL

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My wife share the same feeling about me !

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Same as SVP - outwardly, very, very little bothers me. But since our first was born, I’ve been trying to make up for the fact I didn’t give birth or nurse our children. And that’s where it started for me. My wife is a hero and carries a huge burden for our family (we both have careers, but she handles 75% of the family stuff, regardless of how hard I try to make up the difference) and that crippled me with anxiety.

Hearty thumbs up to big Pharma and Video therapy - they’re a crutch.

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Well, a house can't have 2 hot heads.

I think I relate.

Seeing my husband relax when we are on vacation has me see red. How does that man have a beer in hand at 11am and lay out glancing at the kids when we are always outnumbered and still at the age where there's one who cant swim yet?! I *wish* I could relax like that, even for a few hours.

I can totally relate to that. Sometimes I am bothered about something and can't sleep and I look at my husband and he is snoring in a deep sleep and I wish I could be the same. It's all about one's nature, can't change it.

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