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2 kids (4 and 5 yo). We had nannies when we lived in a low COL city. Moved to NYC and have gone without, but my wife works from home now and is very flexible with hours. If she went back to working in an office, we'd have to have a nanny at least in the mornings to get the kids ready, which is what we had before moving
We did it for two years. Kids went to school and day care, but no nanny- just someone had to be home in time for day care pick up. We had a cleaner and ordered premade meals. It absolutely sucked. We hated life and each other. I felt like everything I touched I half assed. It wasn’t sustainable. He’s a stay at home dad now and I’m so thankful
For that.
I was an 8th year associate and a first year partner the two years he was working. Also, I am in a larger southern city, where things are a bit more laid back. My thing w a nanny is that it seemed more stressful to me to try and find a nanny and then deal w when they get sick, need money etc. that type of stress is a kind that I can’t personally cope with
I know lots of families with two working parents that use day care or have family help. I transitioned to part/flex time after having my first child so we have a part time nanny.
My youngest is now in preschool 5 mornings a week, but before then if I anticipated I would need to get work done on a day our nanny wasn’t scheduled I’d ask her to come in for extra hours. I’m also signed up for two different babysitting services that I use as backup care. It takes a lot of planning and thinking ahead but it’s worth it in order to be more present in my kids’ lives.
Yes, we have two young children and both of us work. However, my husband is building his business and has quite a bit of flexibility and freer schedule than I do, so he’s able to take them to school most mornings and be the one to take them to doctor appointments and so forth. We also have my parents who live close by and help out when my husband and I have a scheduling conflict.
With two working parents*
We have two working parents and no nanny.
My husband’s is over an hour. Mine is about 30 min depending on traffic
No nanny. We just suffer. We only have one kid. We just get up earlier to get him ready for daycare. I drop off, my wife picks up.
It does make a difference.. ours is 6 months now and we’re very close to family. I often feel like I’m at the edge of my sanity as it is
Two working parents in our household (spouse isn’t an attorney) and we do full time daycare and no nanny. We talk all the time about how much easier life would be with a nanny, but just never pull the trigger because our kiddo loves his daycare so much. But it’s hard, especially when he’s sick and one of us is always rushing out of work early trying to make it to daycare before it closes. Honestly, if we could go back I would have tried harder to find a nanny to take that pressure off us. It’s affected our marriage and work for sure.
We have one kid in daycare and I’m pregnant with our second. My husband isn’t an attorney but works full time at a face time office so it’s hard. He takes drop off and I do pickup but it definitely has made my hours more difficult in general.
OP - yes, often. Especially in my son’s first year of life. It was really rough. It’s gotten easier as he gets a little older but I’m nervous to throw another baby into the mix. I love his daycare though which makes me feel better about leaving him for so long every day.
London here (which colo(u)rs everything I say): one 3yo; my husband and I both work; I do drop off at preschool and he does pick up. I tend to be home during/after son’s dinner, we read stories, put him to bed, I log back on if I need to. It works....
Full-time day care. No nanny. I drop them off, wife picks them up.
I’ve done it. We had three kids in two years. The first six months back to work after having my twins was rough. My partner works construction hours so would be out of the house by 5 am so I’d have to pump/breastfeed the babies, get all three kids ready and pack a million bags (some for them, some for me) by myself. I’d drop them off at daycare around 8 am and then he’d pick them up around 2:30 pm.
We got into a routine that streamlined things, but we eventually got a nanny who would come over in the morning and help me get the kids ready and then take them to school. She’d also pick up the kids so my partner could hit the gym before coming home. She would generally stay until about 5 or so and then I’d be home around 6:30/7.
It worked but it was rough. Things are much easier now because I have a ton of family to help (they moved to be closer) and the kids are older and can get ready with little help from me.