I am generally uncomfortable when I’m around my mother-in-law’s husband.

While he is overall a decent guy, his anger issues, yelling at his wife for the slightest issue, and insulting nature makes me uncomfortable and triggers my own anger due to his blatant disrespect for just about everyone around him.

My mother-in-law says he’s worked on things, but it’s been 10 years of this and I’m not sure I want such behavior around my wife and our kids since we’re trying to conceive soon (cont).

Anyone here 40s never married, no kids?

Deeply afraid of being married to someone like the girl in sex/life on Netflix

Anyone ever considered contractor gig in Meta/Facebook or any other big players in tech? I'm full-time in a smaller company and it's pretty stable. Wondering if the move could be worthwhile. Mostly want to explore other areas. Other things to consider: planning for babies in the next 3-5 years; maternity leave in current position is basically what's legally required.

My partner of 5 years ended our relationship last night. I’m shattered and feel absolutely sick, and I know the healing isn’t going to be easy. We were on the verge of an engagement and I was ready to spend the rest of my life with him.

I don’t know how to approach work during this time. I think I can get by, but I’m definitely not 100%. Should I talk to my boss about it? My team is close-knit and comfortable around each other, but I don’t know if it’s “appropriate.” What would you do?

Do you think all these violent and hate filled attacks are because people aren't getting the emotional/mental support they need, whether it's therapy at any age or help they needed but didn't get from a social worker as a child? My coworker is sure this is the case, but I honestly think there's actually something deeper wrong either with how these people are being raised as children, or how the warning signs these people give off are ignored or swept under the rug to save face.

If I move to industry, how much vacation, sick days, and parental leave as a father should I expect as a senior auditor?

Been taking prenatals for the last four months and have seen significant hair growth in the hairline area, specifically baby hair growth. Thinking of recommending it to my mom who has been asking for hair growth products since a while. Thoughts?

Wife is 35 weeks pregnant and recently tested positive for Covid. Symptoms are mild to moderate. Doctor’s say no impact to baby if symptoms continue to remain under control. We are vaxed and boosted so not as worried about our recovery. More worried about the baby at this point. Anyone with similar experiences to share? TIA

Well, I was the one who broke it off. I couldn’t get him to love me the way I needed or even respect me enough. It’s been 6 weeks of not seeing each other. We messaged this week. He doesn’t get it…. His messages show he still doesn’t know what he wants. Yet, if I am totally honest, I hate how part of me wishes he would do a grand gesture/finally decide to be a better man. It’s delusional. It’s crazy how love can be so rosy, sweet & blinding that the red flags seem surmountable.

Anyone here want to be a friend can ping me..

Anyone have leads on a live in or live out nanny in the Columbia/Ellicott City/Howard County, MD area? Two kids, a 4yo and a 4mo. Looking for someone to start next summer/fall so could work nicely if there are any families who will be aging out as their kids start school.

Is the Bella Vista area a safe place to live and raise kids?

I have been a contractor with a federal government agency for over a year and only recently became a fed with the same agency.

I have a baby on the way in a few months.

Will I be eligible for the leave and qualify the 12 months rule with my contractor hours/months for the agency?
Unable to find this anywhere.

Department of HHS

Shia - Sunni marriages?

Hello everyone! I am looking for advice. I am a C&B Team lead ( about 15 years of experience) but all my experience was in Russia. Now I got married and moved to UK , plus we have got a baby in 2019 so now I am looking for a job in UK having 3 years of career break. Although, I am getting CIPD lvl 7 diploma this year. I am not ready for team leader's role now . So my question is about HR area, where could I find a job with my only Russian experience? HR generalist, C&B analyst, HR BP, recruiter?

When hirings managers ask illegal or unethical questions that is not relevant to the job or skills needed for the role like...
How much are you making at current job
Are you pregnant or have any children
Do you have reliable daycare
Do you have reliable transportation
Do you have a criminal record

Have y'all experienced this?

Anyone file for divorce without a lawyer if both parties are consenting? How does it work when you don’t have any joint assets (separate bank accounts, no house) and no kids? Married <5 years

Anyone in Chicago want to hangout as a group. Need more friends. (31/F)

Hello anyone reading this! I wanted to ask for any realistic, recommended job positions from someone with more knowledge and experience. I am graduating this December with my BBA and am ready to leave the job I’m in now. I’ve been applying for a range of positions I qualify for and nothing so far, which I expected. I have 3 years of experience in management operations but also have 6 years of experience with child care, is that why I may be getting rejected? Maybe I’m overthinking my resume? 😅

Anyone need referral from Deloitte, ping me

Question: do guys like glasses on women?

Sunday 4/19 FYIsland thread! Comment if you want visitors or want to explore new islands.

Advice on taking and passing the SPHR exam?

As lawyers are there ways to get paid for connecting clients?

I'm thinking about starting with a new company. I'm a commercial workers compensation underwriter with almost 3 years of experience. I currently make around 38k but I'm hearing that this is low for the market. Thinking about going to Travlers or Hartford. Anyone have experience there? What was your salary?

Hi Fishes,
Please suggest on which is better in terms of what?
Barclays vs Mastercard

Tech: java, spring
YOE: 3

Can anyone tell me salary for service engineer in @eternia

Does a $525k for a 4bed+2.5 bath ; 2020 built; $211/sq ft in Frisco seems a good deal?

Is anyone heard the news that leaders got an email that avoid leaves for next 3-4 months bcz lots of work about to come (vese to humesha hi hota h par usse b jyada hoga) might be split is the reason??

Went on a bachelorette trip where the maid of honor was very anal, she made us do bi-monthly check ins with slides/agenda/itinerary since last year. We even had to share outfit pictures of exactly what we would be wearing, we got a dress code (color, length of dress, types of accessories), how to make the bride stand out, and tips on how to take pictures a certain way to flatter the bride. Now she’s going to be joining my office too, im scared I’ll have to see her often and socialize

Looking for recommendations for an on-demand t-shirt print shop. I’m interested in printing various designs and artwork :)

Hey Guys,

I had my Technical interview with SALESFORCE on Dec2 for DevOps engineer - MTS . I haven't heard from them if I am selected or rejected. The career portal is still in " interview" status. HR won't reply. What to Do ? . How long will it take for Salesforce to conduct interviews??
Please help 🥺

What is the process to reimburse 25k after purchasing a mobile.. also can I claim for my 2 nd vaccination jab?

Who are the best creative team in Ireland right now? Junior, senior or anything in between.

Recruiters, is it a red flag if a potential candidate’s previous job experience is as follows:
Job 1: 1.5 years
Job 2: 2.5 years
Job 3: 2.5 years

Is it normal to negotiate for a bigger severance package if it happens within the first year? Because Meta may have something for me but TBH I'm nervous about their hiring freeze news.

Best part about being single: Not having to hold in my gas ! What is the best part of it for you??

Woman I went on one date with keeps me informed on what she's doing. I.e. Seeing her girlfriend or on her way to a birthday party. Not used to this level of transparency after just one date. We do have a second date planned. Thoughts?

Fiancé’s milestone birthday coming up. We both love experiences and enjoy the city. Welcome all the help to make it special for her!

Does anyone ever feel any insecurity about how they compare to their partner? Eg partner is smarter, hotter, more outgoing, etc

Did anyone hate wedding planning? I’m constantly considering cancelling the wedding cuz I honestly can’t believe how much drama it’s causing with all family members.......

When to break-up with someone? I’ve been dating my gf for 6 years (2 long distance 1yr on a break and 3 living together. Nothing terrible about the relationship but I’m not happy and no longer feel in love. I’ve tried working it out but haven’t felt the relationship has gotten any better. I feel at this point the best thing to do for both of us is split (she shouldn’t be with someone that can’t love her fully). So here’s the options continued…

So I have been seeing a guy for 4 months. We have a pay disparity.. he earns less than I do (by quite a bit). He has mentioned a few times that he’s worried I’ll get bored of him when I know he can’t afford the same things I can. I think we are beginning to move past this, but now he’s starting to mention things like ‘I am really broke this month’, and last weekend he told me his mum has lost her job and he’ll have to probably pay her rent. I have a lot of sympathy for his situation … tbc

When did you know you were falling out of love with your partner? Did you fix it, or break things off and why?

In search of stories to hopefully understand a phase in my own long term relationship.

Do you think you and your significant other should have similar personalities? My significant other and I are doing long distance and I feel like when I FaceTime with him, I emote more and show interest by asking more questions but from his end, he doesn’t always have a reaction or just nods, and it makes me feel like he’s uninterested. On his end he sees it as he’s comfortable.

Have you ever snoop through your partner’s phone without them knowing? If so, did you find anything shocking?!

Is giving birth w/o the epidural really that crazy of a concept? People laugh at me when I say its very feasible...

Breakup etiquette- we broke up and I was supposed to go to his relatives’s wedding in a couple of weeks. I know the couple, not super well, but have hung out and texted individually as well. Should I let them know I won’t be attending and wish them well or don’t reach out to them?

How do I start the divorce process? Do I have to get a lawyer? Help...!

Am I crazy or do women take pride in saying “my boyfriend/husband makes twice as much as me” or similar statements

Is there a polite/gentle way to talk to your boyfriend about the fact that he has gained a lot of weight in the past year and needs more physical activity in his life?

I am not a very shallow person — he was already on the heavier side when we met. But when I look at photos from just a year ago, it’s clear he’s put on a lot of weight. I am worried about his health. I don’t want to overstep or make him feel insecure. Just wondering if anyone else has ever been here.

My SO adds very little to our relationship. She has a dead end job. I cook. I work. I oversee finances. I plan trips. She doesn’t have a voice in the relationship. I’ve asked her to give her perspective but she always defaults to mine bc she thinks I’m smarter/worldly. She feels intimated by me and my social circle. Lately, I’ve found myself thinking for her. Anticipating her wants and needs and then adjusting my behavior to meet them. Which she appreciates but it’s frustrating 29M 27F

Someone teach me how to flirt! How do I let this guy know I’m into him?

Haven’t done the dating thing in a while so need advice! (F here) Met a guy at a party on Sat, followed each other on insta, then I dm’ed him my number saying “lmk if you want to get drinks sometime”. He then texts me and says something along the lines of “yeah let’s do it” but doesn’t offer any concrete plan. Does this mean he’s not super into it? Or am I overreacting and I should initiate the plan? I initiated the insta follow and the dm so I feel like it’s his turn…?

How do i find out if I will be happier divorced or more unhappily staying married. 2 kids; 2 & 4 YO. They don’t hear the arguments after bed time and don’t understand the bruises yet but I know it’s just a matter of time. It would be so much harder not seeing my kids everyday than living with the pain, loneliness and lost friendships. But I’m tired. And so sad. Lost. So alone. Does anyone have something that turned it around? He changed? You changed so he did? Ayahuasca retreat maybe?

F*****-up story…please be constructive (but also open & direct)
With my wife for 14 years, 2 kids under 8y - both under a lot of pressure bc Covid/work/private life/… and have been (unconsciously) running away from our couple not working “since a long time” (dixit my wife). We want to try and fix it, but I also met someone new (not sure if she would even want me) and wondering if it’s worth fixing it (since we are trying/running/avoiding it for years) - just worried about the kids…any advice