Been having trouble moving on since girlfriend ended relationship 3 weeks ago after 2+ years of dating. Before ending it she came over 3 weeks prior to basically give me a chance to work things out and we had a good discussion but then I went back into our routine and didn’t really fight for it or have serious follow up convos that we needed. Now I just have so many regrets that I let her go. I know we still love each other and left on “good” terms but can’t forgive myself for my lack of action.

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If there’s no chance at the relationship continuing you can always look at it as you learning more about yourself and what you’re willing to give/take. It will only benefit your next relationship. The heartbreak won’t last forever.

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I can say ppl get real comfortable in not having to compromise when other person doesn't insist. If she almost gave an ultimatum and you still did not put in efforts, there is a good chance you may have never done it if she stayed. This may make her miserable and she would have ended it anyway in the future after giving multiple chances. It's a less heartache now that this happened, instead of spending more time with each other. Be a better person. Learn from this and Move on.

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Why’d you let her go? Did you not believe she’d be willing to end things?

Once you’re able to answer that question for yourself, you can learn from what happened and rebuild trust in yourself that you won’t let it happen again in a future relationship with someone else

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You weren’t ready, else you wouldn’t have done that. Just move on and give it time. See if you feel the same in 6 months.
Absence makes the heat grow fonder but you only miss her absence when you get time. So stay busy.

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