I got some really blunt feedback during my annual review, and it’s hitting me harder than I expected. I’m trying to stay professional, but I keep overthinking my mistakes. How do you all shake off that "I'm not good at this" feeling?

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You have to be honest about this feedback. Is it honest?Think in facts. Was the feed back based on facts or subjective opinion? Managers (most of them) are notorious on offering subjective feedback not factual feedback. So, get out of your feelings and view it from facts and logic. Is the feed back based on facts and is it logical? That's when you will start to feel better....

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Is this feedback you’ve heard in the past? If not then have you thought about requesting feedback during 1:1s? Feedback during review time whether it’s good, bad or indifferent should not be a surprise.

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Remember just how bad you were 2 years ago. Or 5 years ago. You're improving... so keep at it.

In the mean time... build something you like... in whatever way you like building it. That'll remind you that you enjoy it too.

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The way it’s taken you by surprise makes me think that it was new news to you which is why I take issue with that. Should have been before

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I’m not good at this and I’m learning are two different mentalities. So long as you don’t give up, you WILL get good at this

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If it was constructive feedback then use that as an opportunity to drive your improvements. If it wasn’t constructive then consider leaving your team or company for a better opportunity.

At the end of the day remember this: a company doesn’t hire you out of the goodness of their hearts. They hire you to solve problems for them. If you’re solving problems for them, great. If not, why? Is it something you can fix?

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Constructive feedback can be hard to hear. Some of it may even be how OP was raised. I grew up pretty sheltered ina family that avoided serious conversations and had no brothers so I’m a candidate of this sentiment

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With feedback I don’t think it’s just the what, but the delivery is also important. Similarly if it came out of the blue that is also not good practice. Sometimes the feedback might not be the 100% truth of the situation, but how someone might interpret the situation. Optics unfortunately matter. Get some second opinions and think about what you can *adjust rather than completely change about how you work. The fact you care a lot about this is also meaningful.

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Just remember your past achievements and how hard you work. I have just had an absolute nightmare in my job where some changes to tables I made were legit 95% wrong which required a huge number of bugfixes, these things happen!

You should be getting critical feedback throughout the year in your 1:1s with your manager. If you aren't getting that, start requesting it so you can avoid those year-end surprises.

I'm in same position.

Same here. Shame to management

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