I had a miscarriage at 8 weeks. First pregnancy. I’m over 40 and worried this is it. How do I find the strength to try again?

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Talk to your doctor. Are they concerned?

Had an early miscarriage at 36 trying for my second. I have no doubt that we are meant to have another child and will keep trying. Going to engage fertility specialist soon since technically I’ve been trying for 6 months now. It’s discouraging but have my eye on the prize and know that so many women have gone through so much more to conceive so I have faith

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Sending love. You got tjis

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Sending love! My friend and I are both 30 and we’re both expecting — she just had a miscarriage at 10 weeks and is understandably devastated. But I share to say that a miscarriage can happen to anyone at any age and just because it happened to you doesn’t mean you have to give up on your dreams of motherhood. Hang in there and keep trying, your time will come 🤍

I’m so sorry, have you been working with a fertility specialist? I ask because getting a full work up and understanding my odds with a fertility doctor really made me have more hope.

Had all my tests done and I’m surprisingly perfectly fine and I can conceive naturally. This time just didn’t work out.

I had a miscarriage before my first as well at 34. Proceeded to have 2 healthy pregnancies. A friend of mine was 39 and using IUI. I believe she had 7 miscarriages, but now has a beautiful 4 year old girl! It can still happen!

I’m so sorry you are going through this.

I had recurrent miscarriages from 36-38 before my baby was finally born and going through loss and fertility treatments was so challenging. The Fertility bowl here and talking to others with similar experiences was helpful. Try to take care of yourself, take time if you need it, and lean on your partner if you can.

I’m so sorry this happened. Talking to other women who experienced loss was really helpful for me. I had three miscarriages between 35-37 and the last resulted in uterine scarring that required several procedures to clear. I wasn’t sure if I’d ever be able to have kids. It is so hard and isolating. I have a 14 month old now at 39. Not enough people are vocal about how difficult TTC is but so many people go through it. Having friends who get it is how I got through it and stayed persistent. A good couples therapist was super helpful to. How each person in a relationship grieves can be really different and puts a lot of stress on relationships. Finally, give yourself grace. Skip a friends baby shower if you need to. Protect yourself if you’re feeling overwhelmed. It’s normal to feel devastated.

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