I have basically done the same job for ten years and am full of regret.

I am 35 and only recently learned you're supposed to use your twenties to 'hop around', try new things, build up contacts and, of course, get big pay rises.

Now I feel like I need to do my twenties now. I don't even have a successful personal life to compensate for my failure.

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Hey i did that "hop around" till im 32 today but still dont know what I'm doing, and will do, with my life. You are not alone *virtual hug*

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I also tried lots of things in my 20s and arrived at law eventually - still doesn’t feel like the right fit. It’s a long journey my friend, hang in there.

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35 is young! It’s definitely not too late for you to change course, in your work life or in your personal life. You’ll get great advice here. Good luck!

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Hey, I didn't hop around in my 20's either. It's also a huge regret of mine. I've learned to just try to look forward and be more career-oriented in my 30's.

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I hopped about every 6-7 years, successfully. Hopping in your 50s is way tougher.

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I was 40 when I went back to school and got a Bachelor of Science Degree in Environmental Science. It’s not too late. I worked another 23 years (not always in my major, but was always successful. I retired 5.5 years ago. It’s never “too late”.

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