Why do we do this to ourselves? I’ve been working 90+ hour weeks for the past 9 months, always under insane pressure, I’ve given up weekends, holidays, any possible time, and the firm still wants more

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I probably don’t have any friends anymore, I spend more time in a day with my boss than in a week with my wife. My body and mind are failing me and I just don’t see the way out, I’ve traded my skills as an engineer for useless bullshitting verbiage, Excel models that create ‘insights’ out of thin air, and I can’t even think of a real job I’d be able to do anymore outside of consulting. Happy Easter weekend to those who will not spend it in a client conference room.

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OP!! Roll off! Seriously this is too much! 9 months is plenty of time. Go visit a doctor and get a note to roll off! Take time off!

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Dude. Come on. I know consulting attracts insecure overachievers but you're taking it to extremes.

Take a break, say no, take another job, whatever.

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90 hours for 9 months? Cmon, learn to say no. There’s literally no reason for this.

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The power of “no” and setting boundaries with work has transformed my life

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No job at Accenture should require 90hours per week for more than a short sprint.

Your project it’s staffed correctly or you need support understanding your role. I’ve saw this a few times when I was there and it was always a project management issue

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Listen I can relate to this on a deep spiritual level!

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How about seeking an engineer position? What area do you live in? What field of engineering did you study? How about looking into companies like GE or Aerospace. You need a new job and you’re killing yourself.

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Firms will taken until they cannot any longer. Push back. It’s a hard lesson to learn

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❤️❤️❤️

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