I have been in a relationship with my bf for 3+ years. In the beginning of our relationship, he said he does not use social media anymore but we connected on FB anyway. Recently I came across his feed and saw his history with his exes are still on his profile. Tbh it's bothering me. His friends know I'm his gf, so I don't know how to bring this up to him and ask him to delete it. Has anyone had a similar experience?

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Asking out of love: how old are you? This is something that often comes up in relationships in your early 20s, when individuals are less confident in their sense of selves, or in relationships where there are trust issues or histories of past cheating.

If you fall into the former, I would encourage you to look past this and avoid falling into any comparison trap, paranoia or surface level concerns, if there is not behavior to make such concerns warranted. It’s important to learn to be confident in yourself and in your relationship, and know that often comes in time (though it’s never too soon to start). However, if you fall into the latter, it sounds like it may be worth a frank conversation with him and sharing your concerns and having a discussion around your request.

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