28,F divorced no child and no life , my marriage is nothing but a whole cheat drama, now parents are asking to marry anyone who can 'accept ' me but I never did anything wrong other than being innocent and naive and good to bad people, really wanted to live my life, somebody hold my hand when in distress and i ended up somebody who just need my money and body nothing else, just feel like committing suicide, never been a loser at any point of life , Life is bloody damn unfair

How do you deal with parental guilt when you have to miss things? When my child was a baby it wasn't as big of a deal as long as I was around for the big stuff and was pulling my weight parent wise. Now that they're 4+ everything is big stuff, and every time I can't be there it really affects them. I know being successful in my career will set them up for the future, but it feels like I'm letting them down right now.

To those with an anxious attachment style and have trust issues due to past childhood trauma you’re still healing from: How do you keep yourself from thinking your significant other is going to cheat on you when she/he goes to a party or out while you’re miles away? I’ve been in therapy to help, and trying to distract myself but my anxiety is keeping it from working and don’t want to put that pressure on him because I’m trying to work on it.

Any other lonely social workers in here? I mean a lot to some of the people on my caseload but that's about it. Don't have any family near me and it's hard to make friends with non-SW's mostly just because I'm too tired after work to want to do much. Do you spend most of your time alone or is your social time self care for you? Just feel like I don't have a support system!

How long after a failed transfer does your stomach and body feel like it’s back to normal? It’s been a little over a week since I got the news that my transfer a few weeks ago didn’t work. But my stomach is still so pooched out and looks pregnant that it makes me cry knowing that’s not the case. Trying to eat clean, tons of long walks, but still feel really bloated and gross.

How has having kids affected your career?

Any book recommendations for grieving the death of an estranged parent?

On the topic of intimacy with partners… I’ve been with my boyfriend for 2 years and the past year his libido has dropped to zero. Mostly due to work stress (he says). Whenever I try to initiate, he always shuts me down and says he’s not in the mood. I even touch him and he gets hard but stops me as soon as I try to unzip him. We went from once a week to maybe once a quarter.

I’ve talked to him about it and he says I should take care of myself. So frustrated. 😭😭

Question: Girl friends parents finally came over for a ristha. Everything went great or so I thought but now she wants to time to think about moving forward. The pain point she brought up is that we are in different states and she is feeling pressed. Although in that time she has started communicating less and I literally had to beg her to get on face time. My gut says she wants to end it but unsure. Any advice ? It's been 2 weeks since this event

Anyone know if the paid 16 week parental leave is available only once or for each birth?

FML. I’ve been dating someone for 8 months and have been having doubts about the longevity of the relationship. This week he tells me he is thinking about leaving our city and working remotely. Even though I was already thinking about ending it, this hurts. I know I’m being childish - being rejected by someone who I was planning to reject! And I know he isn’t the right guy for me in the long term. So why does this hurt?! 😭😭😭

Dating my bf for about 6 months and he’s best friends with his mom and tells her everything. He even told his mom about the one time I tried a drug, before I met him. I thought I told him in confidence and now I found out he told her. How would you feel?

Real talk ... if someone is over 35 and hasn’t been married before, do you automatically assume there is something wrong with them?

Where are you in your own path to parenthood?

Been with my GF since college and we recently hit the 4 year mark. 1-2 years into our relationship I found out she had instances of micro-cheating (flirting with guys, talking to ex’s etc - but nothing physical) and we addressed it. To her credit and my knowledge, she’s been apologetic and great at respecting boundaries since, but I still feel the pain from her actions years ago (and have talked to her about it). Feeling lost about whether to just leave or to try and work things out

Happy wife happy life is a really toxic saying. I’m just shocked how this has become the standard saying for men in relationships. I have friends of mine saying this all the time, and I have just thought it’s so cringe and always want to say my thoughts on it but always decide to hold back. However, imagine the saying reversed - happy husband happy life - that would lead to all kinds of uproar. To me happy wife happy life means I need to sacrifice my wants and needs to make my wife happy.

I have a governmental entity client in Texas that wants to offer 6 weeks of paid parental leave for all employees, even those who aren’t eligible for FMLA. After the paid 6 weeks, the employee can choose to continue paid leave using any accrued personal leave.

Texas does not have a paid parental leave statute.

If paid leave above what is required is offered for parents, do we also have to provide the same benefit to other employees that are eligible for unpaid leave?

Peanuts. But that's ok because I'm compensated by 'Mother culture'

I just started a new job 2 months ago, benefits and PTO don’t start until 90 days in so I still have a month before I can take off any time, and today found out my company doesn’t offer paid maternity leave.
I’m really struggling handling the symptoms and maintaining my full time job. Thinking about looking for a part time job to have more time to myself through the pregnancy since I won’t be getting a paid leave anyways, but lost on where to start looking. Any recommendations?

As a black guy attracted to Indian women, what are my chances of marriage if the girls parents are conservative?

What do y’all use to draw informal figures? I currently use powerpoint but am curious if there are more efficient ways. What have you found most efficient/convenient?

What are the best sports bars to meet guys on a Sunday afternoon?

What do you think are the chances this thing actually goes through? As of today they're still blocking it. It's paused which is fine, but if they don't actually forgive them after February I'll be pissed.

Hi Fishes,
I have to transfer my PF amount to the accenture PF account. My previous organisation was PF exempted organisation. Once I submit the online transfer should I send the hardcopy to Accenture as well

If you are trying to pursue music and have an EP out, how do you start getting gigs lined up? Where do I start? SEND HELP (or advice) lol

Does Publicis network have a cap on freelance time, the number of weeks or days one can freelance?

Being considered for a senior role, need to negotiate pay. What’s a reasonable amount for a first time senior creative in Chicago?

Best female/WoC creative directors and writers in Chicago. Go!

Anyone hiring for account management?

Hi, Anyone working in Virtusa with BT as Client?

I got call from tech Mahindra for selection on Friday But still waiting for any mail confirmation.

(1)How much time it will take to get confirmed selection mail and further process upto joining?
(2) They will call for salary negotiation or not?
(3) Upto what range they negotiate?
(4) What will be the salary negotiation range for 6 years experience person having 9lpa is the current package?

What is the best way to find a job at a startup? I’ve been in a major Fortune 200 company for the past 6 years, and I am looking for a change to the startup career path to build companies from the ground up.

Hi Friends, You’ve all been a great support in 2021, by proving instructions /suggestions and sharing your thoughts. I wish you all HAPPY NEW YEAR 2022 , you all been like a family !! Praying God, to shower all healthiness and happiness to everyone in this bowl.

Any SF Bay Area marketing manager opportunities? Been on the hunt for several months and can’t seem to make any traction.

Getting out of education? I am recently credentialed and not yet teaching. I was accepted into a 4month i.t. program that is guaranteeing me 2x the starting teacher salary in four months. After working as a B.T. for 7 years and finally getting my cred, should I make the leap of faith to IT or wait until August for a position to possibly open?

What should be the salary of an audit manager in NC?

After all this craziness is over, anyone in NYC want to help me set up a big mixer so we can all meet each other?

IBD Nordics members?

M here who has a decent amount of random grey hairs. Rest of hair is very dark, close to black, so they stand out. Any recs on how to get rid of them?

Anyone have any suggestions on how to control oily hair? I have thin hair, and started using fable and mane pre hair oil and mask..which kind of helps but seems like the oil just builds up quickly.

Any recommendations on a decent treadmill under $500?

Saw a previous post mentioning chemical peels and lasers for treatment of acne scars. Does anyone have any recommendations for specific treatments?

Has anyone tried CeraVe daytime face lotion with 30 spf? I use and love the PM (even during the day in winter) and want to add SPF during the day without risking breakouts. Unfortunately I have dry, yet sensitive, acne prone skin.

Anyone have a favorite healthy recipe? Realized that I eat terribly even when I’m home in my own kitchen...

🧖‍♀️What are your favorite tips for *inner* beauty?

Both healthy eating and healthy thinking! Share below 👇

Anyone use Ashwagandha? What type/brand?

Favorite light to medium coverage foundation with spf?

My skin has always been a little dry. I’ve used plain coconut oil on my face for years (as a moisturizer) but recently stopped because my fave would just get red after application. Not itchy but I definitely felt like my skin was reacting. Any suggestions for non-acne related calming face washes or moisturizers?

Anyone who has made the shift from a regular toothbrush to an electric? What were your reasons? Also do you think an electric is much better from an overall oral hygiene perspective?

Any suggestions for a face serum or face oil for dry, sensitive, acne prone skin?

Finally accepting that I have too many grey hairs that I can’t just pluck them any more. What’s the best way to color speckles of grey while optimizing for cost/time/quality? Do those boxes of hair coloring at the grocery store actually work or should I get it done professionally? 🤔

Has anyone seen or tried those anti-wrinkle straws? They kind of look like a hook but I was wondering if they actually helped or if they were simply gimmicked?

Ladies, I am F in my late 30s with fine, medium-length, flat hair. It’s been thinning and feel like I am losing a lot of it.
I’ve tried oral supplements but it didn’t do much to help (just grew hair on my face instead 😳). Any recommendations that might have helped you with the same issue? Anything topical that worked for you?

Fashion Q: what kinds of pants do you guys wear day-to-day? I know skinny jeans are considered “out,” but super baggy mom jeans are not flattering on my small frame. I wear leggings when I’m WFH, but I want to look slightly more put-together/fashionable outside my home

Ive been using botox fairly consistently for 10 yrs and m happy with the results. However, for financial reasons Im thinking of taking a break for 12 months to save the extra money.

Will stopping botox for 12 moths undo all the progress I've made? (I am afraid of rapidly aging like the Nazi from Indiana Jones and the Last Crusade - nightmare fule).

Also, any adfordable akincare products I should use during the 12 months?

I have an appointment to get lip fillers for the first time. I want natural looking results, nothing too big. I know it takes time to settle, but will I be able to go to work the next day without it being noticeable?

Anyone tried biossance skin care line? I’m Pregnant and wanted something safe and clean during my pregnancy.