I just had a baby 6 months ago. How do sleep deprived new parents function at work? Am I missing something here? I can’t do it…

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Hang it there. The baby will sleep through the night eventually. It gets better as they get older. You will feel better in a few months. You got this! And yes, ask for help (especially over the weekend) so you can rest more.

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It’s so hard. You will sleep again, I promise, but it takes time. At 9 months we got consistent overnight stretches. By a year we were in a good groove, usually 11 hours, with only occasional overnight disruption. My best advice is to prioritize the essential and cut yourself slack on the rest. You’ll be in a better position to function in a few months. Until then, just maintain. You got this.

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Co-sleeping (safely) saved my life and sanity in a similar situation.

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Coffee. With an extra shot.
My
Kid was a decent sleeper but all the feedings and pumping…woof. I had a good system with my husband that he would do the last feeding before bed so I could go to bed earlier, I would do the middle of the night, and he would do the AM so I could rest a bit more.

I had a really good team around me at work and we all strived to make it work. In many ways, my kid was their kid. I think I was pretty lucky in that way.

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Here’s the thing, if you think you are done, it’s totally okay to be done. I BF/pumped for about a year. It did get easier as I adjusted and the kid got bigger. Then I switched over to formula for a brief period and that was also fine.

The first year or so is just about surviving. And you WILL survive.

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lol that never changes

It gets easier as your kid gets older and learns to sleep thru the night. Sometimes you need skip doing laundry that day to sit with your kid (sleeping or not) and just have a breather, and that's okay.

Set some work boundaries like logging out from 5pm-7pm to get your kid fed, settled, and put to sleep, then log back in IF NEEDED.

You'll find your groove.

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