I Live in a joint family(parents,uncles,grands)5-6 brothers and sisters (including uncle's son and dauthers) .
Being the eldest son and studied in joint family I understand that I have responsibility to fulfil.

But since few months I have observed that my family members are not at all grateful to my contribution. They sometime say that I didn't make any contribution which is not true , even they know that.
I have helped and helping my family when I was earning only 20 k per month

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Currently I am financing my 2 brothers (uncle's son)
Study. Sometime it hurts me very much when I feel that even after doing all these they don't recognise my effort.
One month back I was so much stressed due to all these thta I was unable to sleep.
Any thoughts on how to deal with this?

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Thanks Bhai/Behan 😌

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Then stop contributing.
Didn't they accuse you if not contributing ?
They'll soon realise how valuable your contributions were.

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I had to leave family business and join a job coz i needed to have financial independence.
I had to be answerable for each penny even though i did not spend much.
Tried various ways to change everything, but everything is worse than before.

Bhai sabka yahi haal hai

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Bhai life me kuch problems ke solutions nhi hote hai bs jo chlra h chlne do time pe sb set ho jata hai meri advice hai ap jyda na socho is bare me feel proud on yourself 🙂 that you are caring your family ☺️

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Everyone is in the same boat
Nearly 65-70% of my salary goes to my family.Rest I save forcefully and still when i say them i want to buy something for me, they say me why are u wasting money😂. Also considered selfish sometimes.I know my responsibilities but ab thoda bhi khud ki icha pura krne jao to kharab hojate h ham bhai

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Just a heads up! Once you get married then dynamics will change even more!! Your spouse will play a major role in shaping your future growth.

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Im going through this 😐😐😐

To be Honest prioritising and deprioritising is not only done in Agile projects. It is also done by our own family. When they get better.

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Harsh truth

I’ve been in a familiar situation, albeit I’ve been an observer than the victim. My father being the eldest had done everything for his brothers and sisters. So much so that he sacrificed his own family’s future. Fast forward some years, it is us who are suffering due to that. None of my uncles and aunts are willing to share the responsibilities of my grandparents. Even after retirement, my father is taking up every other responsibilities.

We are having to bear the burden of his liabilities, and it is actually very difficult.

That’s why my friend, be selfish. Nobody in this world is going to save you when you are in a bad situation.

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Omg, I can relate with you so much that it feels like my story.
The problem is even after knowing all these I am not able to become selfish. Because I have never been. I am not that kind of person.
My father also being the eldest son, worked very hard since his childhood, sacrificed every luxury and now also he just listen others if someone arrogantly talk to him. My father is a big believer of Karma. And some of his thoughts has been inherited to me.
But now I have started thinking of myself too. I am fulfilling my responsibility but along with that I am saving some for my parents and my wife also.
I don't want to repeat same mistake what my father did.

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