I need help.
I recently joined a small-sized product based company.I have not been able to get along with my manager. He does not give me full information on assigned tasks and expects me to follow his order to the letter like in a military. When I ask him doubts he either scolds me or laughs at me like I am dumb. Because of this i am literally scared to talk to him. I am almost depressed because of this. I don't know if it is my fault and if mine how to improve myself.I am very sad bcoz of this

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Hey,
I am also facing exactly same problem.
And feeling exactly same.

But I ignore when he scolds me or mocks me.
Rather I focus on my learning.
For eg I had a doubt and I asked him, he laughed and said “khud kro”
I spent 3 hours, just to understand a small problem. But eventually solved it.

After solving it I thought that, had he helped me I would not have ever understood this thing.

So trying to look at positive side of this.

If the behaviour does not change and I ever felt that it has taken a toll on my mental wellbeing.
I have plan B in my mind that is switch the job.

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It happened to me as well. It really affected my mental health and my performance. But you need to be tough and learn how to face your manager head-on to survive in this industry. Best of luck :)

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Yess it is very depressing. I had worked at 2 other companies before and never faced such issues. My manager has worked over here for 9 years and he is like 'jitna bola utna kar. 9 saal se ye hi kar rha hu'.

Depends on the tone bro. As far as I know people do question managers in IT. Pretty acceptable.

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