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I’d talk to your parents and tell them anyone over the amount communicated by you needs to be covered by them
Did your dad sign any of the financial commitments? You need to do a spreadsheet showing the extra costs of his guests. include not only the per head food and drink but the pruce of extra invites, suze if venue, addition table decorations.... everything. your count/ cost next to now. Compare that to your original budget and how much he saud he was willing to put towards the wedding. There may be places you went over that are not on him. Sit down with both of your parents and go over the $$$. Say I need your help here. If your invitations haven't gone out, you still have leverage. Tell him you are not giving up your honeymoon to have his work associates at your wedding. You need to give him a hard number and back it up, not just say its too much.
Also add a honeymoon fund to your registry.
I'm really sorry that you're dealing with that. Do you have a registry? You could ask for monetary donations towards your honeymoon. That's what my fiancé and I are doing. Also, you could do a money dance where people pin money to you when they dance with you.
Yeah, that's what my fiancé and I are dealing with. It's like people can't understand that 1. We combined 2 households, 2. We're older (56 & 42), so it's not like we're in our 20s and starting out, and 3. We're paying for the wedding ourselves, so we would appreciate the money towards a honeymoon more.
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you shouldn’t have to pay for a penny over the amount of people you wanted to have. i get they’re contributing but they can’t force a larger wedding and force you to pay for the overflow you don’t even want. i’d talk to them and let them understand how that’s effecting other things
if you are doing all the planning, I guarantee he has no clue how expensive a large wedfing now costs. You need to put pen tp paper and say if you want to add these people you need to put more money in the pot. Just talking is emotional, pen to paper is factual. you can do this !
Thinking of you. Hope you worked something out with your parents.
Would you be okay waiting a little bit for your honeymoon? Ours was a couple of months after our wedding - some of it we booked before the wedding, but some we booked after - and while we were doing so more to avoid a Covid cancellation, I feel like that time between helped us appreciate it a lot more. Definitely worth doing a long weekend immediately after if you can though, even if just a stay-cation to recover!
We are waiting about 3 months for the real honeymoon and will do a little mini moon immediately after the wedding. We are planning for a big move a few months after the wedding, so honeymoon has to happen before.