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I used to overthink things like that. At this point, if it sounds fun and you want to, go. If you can’t think of anything worse and absolutely hate the idea, don’t go. Sometimes I have to push myself to be social, then actually enjoy the time out, but it's totally personal and really up to you at the end of the day.
I used to feel guilty about saying no to after-work invites, but I realized my evenings are one of the few times I get to decompress. I’ll go every once in a while, especially if it feels low-pressure or someone I genuinely enjoy will be there. But I don’t think opting out regularly is a red flag.
You should do it because that’s just what you want to do. But please KNOW all smiles are not friendly smiles and eyes can record a situation better than a cellphone can. So ALWAYS be mindful about what you do and what you say. IF you get loose lips from being out and about then don’t drink. Go ahead get out socialize not because you want to fit in but because you want to get out. Just be mindful of what I tell you. 10+ years in this County government and I hung out, got drunk and whatever happened happened. But what I say to you is from learned lessons. Have fun 🫵🏽🤗🥰🎉
I have a few coworkers I'm friends with outside of work, but we don't hang out all that often. I don't see any problem with keeping work and personal lives separate. I spend 40 hours a week with my coworkers already, I don't see the need to spend any more with them outside of work unless I actually want to.
As a 56 yr old who is in the midst of the most extensive background I've ever had for a job (listing all major jobs back to age 19!), I was quite amazed and gratified to realize just how many "work friends" from my 20's and 30's are still in my life as actual friends all these years later. You won't (and shouldn't try to) make besties out of all colleagues, but if you are reliable, friendly, and at least a little sociable, you have a good chance of making a friend or two for the long haul. And, at the very least, you will make your working hours more enjoyable. That being said, you should also be VERY picky about which of those colleagues you give after work time to, and make sure you have plenty of non-work ways to relax and meet people. It's all about balance!
Don’t do it, there’s always a snitch in the group who runs back to HR/ management.
You DONT have to. I like socializing and talking to people on my work hours outside those hours is all about my family.
I would accept the invite. If you ever need to get a security clearance for work, the investigators do interview collages, and if they say stuff live we see him at work but nevers comes out with us socially, it's a red flag and will require closer examination. Personally, the people I work with are pretty dull and like drinking cheap beer, eating free bar snacks, and playing video games - not really a "mensa" crowd if you get my drift.
In the time that I worked for the Federal Government in the Midwest in 2021-2022, I had a quarky boss who was very adamant about socializing staff.
Humorously and seriously put, it felt like an elementary school teacher encouraging people in their twenties to thirties to "hang out" outdoors in a park with no equipment, nothing special setup by the boss, just a park, a place to talk, because apparently there is no other place to talk, lol.
To be a good sport, I attended once. Nobody talked to me. When they did speak, they were too occupied with laughing on past memories that they had shared as a group, but me being new couldn't relate to that. I merely smiled in awkward silence.
That was the last time I attended any event. If a posting came up on our Microsoft Teams chat screen about another hangout day, I'd type, "I have other plans" and nobody cared to ask what they were, so it was an easy breakaway.