I work with 2 older white men and whenever I’m leading a project, they are always late giving me their notes/ feedback even after multiple reminders. This recent incident, they had 3 weeks to give feedback where I did most of the work and all they had to do was check their sections before I presented it to our boss and the day after I presented, only then did they have something to say and was questioning the scope and intent of the deck! Anyone else experience this?

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I hate the double standard of making sure they are over-prepared but not receiving the same support back. This has been a common occurrence since I’ve been in consulting.

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can you schedule a quick 7.5 minute meeting (for 15 min billable time)

title:
"quick sync to review your feedback in advance of presenting to X"

agenda:
review (insert person's name & THEIR deliverable)***

this is key; invite is a review of THEIR work and must be worded clearly to not imply in any way that you looking for them to "check" your work.

Sample Invite note:
"We did not have your feedback on X before the last meeting.

Holding this time for you to share in advance of deliverable.

agenda:

X to share feedback on (linked document)"

Either they attend prepared; or their lack of prep is documented.

Nuclear Option for internal presentation:
email them to put time on your calendar to review their deliverable "as it was not done before hand on the last project"

When they don't do it; the day before it's due, bump email up to them with:

"hey we are supposed to present to @person X,Y,Z is done, will we get this today?"

Rooting for you OP!
These situations are the WORST.

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Yes. Worked with 2 white men for 6 months. To this day, none of them have given any written feedback despite very frequent prompting.

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It’s a shame bc we would be viewed differently if we were to work this way.

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I've experienced this.

My approach is to ask them directly why the feedback isn't timely. Have you discussed this as a team with your boss included?

I'm going through this now with a few colleagues and considering moving on to some other offers. I recommend that everyone stay ready to exit at all times because there's levels to this behavior. In the short term, I agree with RSM... if it isn't a priority for them or your boss, then don't worry about it. Also, stop volunteering to prepare them and give them the same treatment. You're too busy or conveniently unavailable. Their behavior is the culture of the team; stop overworking. We can't be played by identity politics if we don't participate. They're all about everyone being the same, so what can they really say if you point out everyone is too busy?

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