Could you seriously date someone who isn't on the same financial level as you?

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I don't carry what they make but I do care that they have some ambition in life.

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I think it’s naive to dismiss the gender dynamics of money but whatever. More importantly, I don’t want to be just fine. I don’t want to have to rely on anyone to support me, but I really don’t want to totally $ support my husband and family either. Both options are stressful

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Work ethic, education, and ambition are more important to me than salary. Also, as a woman in big law, I have to make sure that the men I date are comfortable with me earning more and won’t be mean about it.

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If anything I find that men find my pay intimidating and off-putting. They hear finance attorney and you can just see the interest melt away haha.

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Soooo true my partner makes 1/3 of what I do and it’s so hard for him.

I don’t think so tbh

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Speaking honestly: while pay ranks last in what I look for in a partner, it would be hard to date someone who makes significantly less than I do (I AM TALKING ABOUT SIGNIFICANTLY LESS). My rule is: while I don’t care if you make less than me, please try to make me change my lifestyle to accommodate your pride

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That speaks to a bigger issue that often leads to divorce, regardless of income difference, spending habits, and relationships with money. This will be an issue if one couple spends lavishly while the other is frugal.

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This is so weird. Is this really a thing? Pay is not who people are. That’s a third party assessment of the work they’re trading for a service.

Character >>>>>> everything.

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Agreed, salary is not a proxy for these traits.

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Haha I meant No. i couldn’t, been there done that. And numerous articles say this specifically sets up black women to fail

Yes. How much money they make isn't all that important to me. I care more about character and how I am being treated.

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