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Sadly it is normal, but that doesn’t mean it wouldn’t be a bad idea to get some sort of support (counselor, your local church, etc…)
OP: You are not alone. I had a complete nervous breakdown but was able to take three month short term disability leave with disability pay to calm down and clear my head. Before you just quit or your performance tanks please get help and consider this option. If you get a break and at end of it you decide to do something else you will be in better mental condition for what comes next. Glad to talk if it would help.
Do you mind if I ask why you would stay? I look back at my time and realize it was so emotionally unhealthy. The firms take advantage of young professionals who don’t know any better and create completely unhealthy boundaries.
P.S. OP: if you fail it’s ok! Life is not perfect. Failing is normal. Those who stick in this profession long term may find success in their work, but often find failure in their personal lives.
Naw that’s totally normal as an associate or senior. One busy season I cried myself to sleep almost every night.
SALT 1 not to go against you as I agree it’s completely unhealthy. What I have learned is at director level, big 4 does help place you in a job so just some interesting info if you didn’t know
This has been normalized in PA, but it’s not normal per say.
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Randomly? No. I always had good reasons why I burst into tears.
I quit every job that makes me cry 😂 I’m weak af!
It’s my crippling anxiety that keeps me from job hunting
Just remember that you are not saving lives in public accounting. Nothing is worth crying over.
You have generous PTO (at least at Big 4). If the job feels overwhelming use your PTO. If you still too stressed after that go work somewhere else.
Crying is normal in PA.
I have never cried for work related reasons. So no I don’t think it is normal. I know a staff who cried a handful of times in the office. She is now quitting and going to another firm with a better work life balance
Never cried, ever. Maybe got angry, but I see people cry or hear about it and I don’t understand it. It’s not normal.
At one of my clients we had a crying room where people would go “release” their emotions
This is sad and simultaneously hilarious
I get angry sometimes when I’m stressed that I want to punch my coworkers.
Make your partner cry with your work
He will cry more when he got fired
I'm sorry that's happening to you and I wish this wasn't as normal as it is in PA. I'm 16 years in and the year before last was the first year I didn't cry at all during busy season. And honestly, I think the reason is because I've become numb to it all. I'm not sure that's any better.
I've seen others ask why people stay. PA was a second career for me and I really don't want to go for a third. My skill set isn't widely needed outside of PA and the places I could land might actually be worse than PA. I honestly don't feel like I have a lot of choice anymore.
Honestly tax kinda does that to folks
Might be time pivot into something else
You’re not alone though
I have I still do
It’s a stressful job
It’s normal but not recommended
Oh I’ve been there and felt better
I’ve been there and ended up seeing a therapist!
I can’t say I’ve ever broken down crying in the middle of busy season. I know it does happen, it just depends on who you are and how you handle stress. I play league of legends to remind myself how much worse life could be... because I totally suck at it... and some of the worst people out there play that game.
I cried a lot my first year - I started in July and got thrown right into busy season. There were some mean ass people in my group that made everything worse on top of the normal stress of the job. I started getting counseling and have also started taking meds for anxiety and I’m doing a lot better now! I don’t cry over work any more and everything seems more manageable - even though I have way more on my plate now