I’m starting to fall for a man I met on Muzz and think we’re super compatible and he says he’s ready for marriage. Talking 2 months + in person dates. But his IG following is sooo many girls, including girls still in school (we are both later 20s), no OF ppl but still. Can’t get this out of my head, it gives me the ick and makes me think he’s thirsty and immature. Am I over reacting? Do I bring it up?

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You are not overreacting and should definitely bring it up. Topics like this are good ones to test how you can problem solve together. Also take your time sister to truly know him. Make sure families are onboard and you discuss other important topics like how families will interact, living situations, finances, etc. Wishing you the very very best.

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Perspective of a married man.

If there a couple of females from childhood or time at school, I personally think its okay, but if this is excessive, its definitely questionable.

Also see what sort of girls he is following. I know its a bit of a stalking behaviour but I would maybe go through a couple of the profiles of the girls (if public) and see if he liked pictures where the girls are presenting themselves. That would deinitely be too much in my opinion.

Try to confront him and tell him in a kind way that it bothers you and see how he reacts.

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Talk about it. Many don’t even think about following people and don’t understand how it could impact a relationship. My wife brought it up with me after we got married and did a really good job explaining her feelings around it.

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I think OP means girls who’re currently still in school, so <18, not girls he went to school with? If so, what kind of content do they post? If it’s not anything educational, then def weird and gives the ick! Worth bringing up prior to any marriage moves.

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No in college, but it’s still weird to me since they are 20-23 which is such a younger life stage than 28-30

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Wow now that i think of it, as a man, i still have mutual female friends from college and high school. Is it recommended to unfollow them? I barely ever talk to them and theyre just on a following list amd thats about it

Honestly, I’ve passed on guys if I see too many girls in their following, for this guy I like him a lot so I’m trying my best to look past it until I eventually bring it up

I think you’re overreacting, the age gap isn’t much and expecting him to drop what is probably potential options 2 month into talking is unreasonable. This is coming from someone who strictly only talks to one person at a time. Now if you guys are moving closer to getting families involved which I hope is the case, then I’d say it’s not a good sign if his following of girls is increasing. If it bothers you just let him know, his reaction will tell you a lot. It may even draw him closer to you, sometimes guys are clueless to how much girls like them. Also what kinda girls? if it’s a bunch of provocative girls then 100% move on

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