I'm struggling with work and family and hoping other dads can empathize and maybe offer some coping tips that isn't booze. 😊

I'm WFH on a really unsatisfying project with nothing inspiring on the horizon. Wife is frazzled from looking after our demanding/destructive 2 year old and trying to furnish/fit out our new house.

I feel trapped in a loop of stressful home life with a toddler and wife shouting at me in the morning/night to boring work life during the day. 😑

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You gotta get out of the house man. I go for an hour bike ride/ run either over lunch or after work. She needs to do the same. Distance is healthy for a relationship.

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Peloton works for me.

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Just got one actually! A quick 20 min before work each morning is helping

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Check out company’s EAP - zoom with a few buds to vent - do something mindless for you - can you delay the housing stuff? Have you told you partner openly how you’re feeling? Everyone else covered the exercise.

You said “stressful” home life and “boring” work life so maybe capitalize on the boringness and let work stuff slide or go on autopilot so you can focus on the home stuff.

You know everything work related is temporary - can always change projects, clients, specialities, etc. but the home stuff is for the long haul.

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Do something active everyday in the morning. I've found my head is more clear when I do this and certainly foggy when I don't. As for the toddler, I understand. I'm learning for toddlers to have to try and have as much of a routine as possible and always give them a heads of of what is next. I.e. After you wake up we are going to have breakfast, read a book, and go to the park etc.

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Thanks all, good suggestions 😁

Can you work remotely from somewhere else? Stick your desk in the garage and say goodbye everyday?

I've been working from the local coffee shop a few days a week which is helping 👍

Maybe take the burdon off her for bit. Block lunch a couple of times a week. Or first thing in the morning so she can nap. That might help you take your mind elsewhere give her a break and make it better for you.

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