I’m very specific about what pieces of my personal life I discuss at work - rarely discuss my love live until im very close with my colleagues- but I’ve noticed a trend of (mostly) men trying to figure out my “deal” in sneaky ways.

“Oh you’re doing a weekend trip? With who - friends, you sister, a boyfriend?”
“Oh do you live with anyone?”

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Could just be being friendly. I’m a woman in a happy relationship but I tend to ask follow-up questions of that nature to my co-workers when small talking just to keep the conversation going

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A friend of mine literally bought a wedding ring for herself to avoid this type of conversation at office lol

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^i saw Citi 1s post and just wanted to add - I don’t think these men were hitting on me, just noisy! I said the “they’re married” to say it wasn’t their intention. Unfortunately, I’ve had guys at work hit on me, going as far to say “I won’t tell HR if you won’t” and I think this was just plain old I want gossip to share.

Not everyone is hitting on you. People are just generally nosy. I always like to know folk’s status. I’m not the least bit interested in dating them, I just like knowing about everyone’s life. It makes it more interesting at work to know people’s lives outside the office a bit.

They don’t know your reason. They just wish they had the balls to do it. It’s like when you travel solo, everyone has a million questions.

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