Interviewing for a new job. I feel strongly about getting home to see my kids before they go to bed, which means I need to leave work by 5:15 most days. If I get an offer, how do I bring this up?

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I would love to have someone come in and tell me they need to pick their kids up every day, and work hard at flexible hours before and after as needed, because that means they’re likely to stay with me longterm. The magic phrase for me would be, “I want the stability of staying in one place at a company where I can stretch and grow, but still be able to pick my kids up from school and see them grow up, too." That’s what would let me know the candidate was serious about finding a solid job, personally.

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I'd ask to speak to another parent as part of your final interviews. Ask about work life balance, what time they leave, if there's flexibility around working from home, how they manage travel and unexpected sick days, etc. Other parents "get it" and in my experience speak candidly.

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I should note I’m fine to work from home after they go to bed, and of course stay late occasionally as needed. I don’t want to come off as lazy or entitled, but I am also not willing to miss my kids grow up.

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Get the offer then negotiate for that. Not a word of it a moment before.

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I can’t wait until a time when we don’t have to wait until AFTER the offer to bring this up. But if you use it as leverage and they say no, you don’t want to be there. Don’t start and try to work your way into it... put your foot down upfront and prove it can be done this way.

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If the boss is a parent, it’s a good sign.

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Tell them. It’s that simple. Don’t apologize.

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I got the offer and then told them that in order for me to give my all to the company I need to also see my kids every day. I want to walk out the front door confidentially at 530 with the support of the agency. They were happy to agree. #timesup
If they say no, it’s not the right place for anyone!
And call them out on this thread to the most powerful and successful women/parents in the industry. We got you. 💪

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I would love to hear more about this too! I’m looking to make a move for the first time after coming back from maternity leave

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Without disclosing your personal situation (risk of unconscious bias) I would ask about flexibility as well as work life balance. Then I usually ask a peer interviewer more directly about when most ppl leave and come in to seeing their answers match up lol

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Agree with @droga5 1 nothing wrong with waiting for the offer and during negotiating telling them YOUR expectations of the modern work environment. Any reputable company that wants you will not rescind an offer based on those needs. If they do... out them here 💪 !!!

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Same! I had an interview this morning and wanted to bring it up but didn’t. I felt like it would hurt my chances. What I’m thinking of doing is take the time to onboard, get to know the company, the culture, the team, the work, then either start leaving a bit early or talk to my boss about it see what he/she thinks and if they can be flexible at least a few days a week.

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I negotiated this point after the offer. I did ask about work culture during interviews as well. there were some places I declined to pursue after they admitted needing to “get better” at work life balance.

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Depends on the role - I don’t like to go too far down the path if it’s futile, so one times i even bring it up in the recruiter screener. No sense falling in love. I’m comfortable with the fact that not every role can bend to the demands of parenthood. Of course there’s a late night every once in awhile, but when dinner’s all you get, it’s pretty damn important (at least for me). Actually turned down LS before it got serious because they said it was a 6 or later culture. Didn’t feel like there were any parents there (or adults).

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I’m waiting to hear back on my last round of interviews. My final interview was with a senior level woman who has children, and she initiated a conversation about flexibility, so that is a good sign! If I get an offer I’ll dive into specifics with them. I’ll keep you all posted! And thanks for all the advice.

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And also. If you can bring it up simply and get a simple straight answer it’s probably not the right fit.

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OP, did you ask about the possibility of early departure here at 360i? Curious if they seemed open to it at all, if so. I would love to see my kids during the week for more than a bedtime story but have hesitated to ask for something like this.

360i 1, I have no problem leaving early at 360i. But I think it’s really dept- and role-specific. I think 360i is definitely open to it, and it doesn’t hurt to ask as long as you trust your manager.

@Director, me too. I hate that I even had to ask this question to the group.

All, thanks for your suggestions! This is so helpful.

Op what did you do?

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