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I’ve got about 300 current matches across the 3 apps but total around 1000-1200
Have 3400+ likes, if anything it’s just too much stimulation, so try to keep it <4 people talking to at a time
Decent looking guy, maybe 7/10, director title / good job, 5’10” tall, 165 pounds, great photos, great bio with lots of substance.
I get one match a week on hinge that never materializes, and haven’t gotten a match on tinder in 6 months. I use my 100 likes a day.
My icebreakers are thoughtful and I’m regularly writing 2-3 sentences on something in her profile / hobby and asking questions. I get back one or two word responses if that. My hypothesis is that unless you’re in the top 5-10% of hot looking guys, you are one of 3000 likes on the woman’s end and she would rather compete against all other women for the top guys, rather than people who are mid like me so I get no attention. 🤷🏼♂️
Maybe your pick are weak?
I’m married now but found good success online pre-2020. Treat online dating like passive income. It shouldn’t be your primary source of income if you catch my drift…
Also play around with the order of pics and see if you notice a difference.
Online dating is like apt hunting, most aren’t spending more than 10s on a profile.
This is the issue I’ve noticed with some of my guy friends, they complain about being hungry but only want to eat food they can order from an app. Not very manly.
When I was in my teens my dad made this comment to me about how it’s tough being a woman, because you bascallly have to wait for a man to offer you water (approach you) before you can drink (have sex/intimacy) - I suppose that’s changing now with more women going to the well so to speak but that’s your privilege as a man - you don’t have to wait to be offered. It’s out there go and drink!
These types of anecdotes remind me what a great dad I have 🥹.
My favorite was his dating advice: be an informed buyer aka, don’t get married until you have a decent sample of what’s out there 😂 … st the sane time don’t just sample any fruit because it’s available. Always have a reason for trying it.
Don’t get jaded, life is great!
Quality over quantity.
At this point I only log on because I feel pressured to
Pressured by who lol?
Nope. I haven’t had anyone who I’ve liked on hinge like me back.
Back when I used tinder, I was getting 1-2 matches every week and out of those matches I got 1 date a year. Found my partner on there in 2017 after my 4th date and stopped using it ever since