My fiancé will NOT stop talking about her ex. After I found out they were texting arguing she justified it by saying it was about the dogs and not them. Even though Her social media is full of his pics. She still sends him $50 a month for dog food, still goes to work right by his place and suspiciously needs keys. I try to bring it up and I get dismantled for being too mean and making “false accusations.” How much more obvious can it be?

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She’s a c*nt.

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The question is how did you get this far to make her your fiancee?

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She’s blackmailing him with porn, and her ex-husband committed suicide over it. OP you need a good lawyer, the ex-bf is the least of your worries. Please get yourself out of this situation before it’s too late. Nothing she has on you is worth being held hostage and she isn’t above the law.

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Even Ray Charles can see it - move on or accept you’re second fiddle

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I feel like your fiancé never fully healed or moved on from that relationship.

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If the post is real, break the engagement, kick her out, change the locks, get a restraining order, block her from comms/social media, and file a report with law enforcement that she’s extorting you with unauthorized recordings. Personal agency. Use it.

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Start recording any evidence possible

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Just be very clear that you cannot move forward, getting married, with someone that is still so much in touch with her ex.

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This post cannot be real.

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How long have you two been together? Seems strange that you’d propose if all this bothered you.

Serious question: Did you expect her to cut communication, change jobs, stop paying for dog food, and delete the pics magically because you decided to marry?

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And is this her ex bf or ex husband? If the later, did they have some sort of stipulation in the divorce about the dog?

I just looked at the comment. You need to run and before you do.. figure out how to protect yourseld

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What state are you in? Can i help?

Isn’t the dating phase there for you to get to know the person and find out potential red flags like this? If they will extort you with your nudes, then if you just don’t care about it, she will have 0 power.

Her: Don’t do that or I will leak videos of you
Me: Sure lol want me to post it myself? 😎
Her: AHHHHHH

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Agree here!!! She only has power cuz of your fear. Let go of it.

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OP how are you doing? Are you still together or broken up?

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Why don't you leave then

My mind is blown by this. When did you learn that her previous husband committed suicide because of her??

For the love of god how did you get so deep in this relationship? You need to leave asap.

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It unfortunately is. I wake up and question reality

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