Why are relationships so difficult!!!

Sometimes I feel like I am a drone that just works all the time and I have no friends.

Anyone here ever been scared by some major differences in materialism with your partner? I’ve been considered “boujee” by some friends but my girlfriend of just over a year is on a whole other level. Lately because of many of her friends getting engaged / married, rings have been mentioned and she’s said pretty much she wouldnt be happy with under 25k.

I come from a very middle class upbringing, and so does she, although she’s influenced by friends dating professional athletes and stuff

Has anyone quit their job because of a relationship? I started my job 3 months ago and now my employer wants me to move to NY. The thing is, I fell in love during the pandemic with a friend that I have known for 3 years. It's frustrating since I know I could continue my job from home. I would honestly quit my job and wouldn't mind the job search again.

Any mothers that are supervisors/managers? Thinking about starting a family & realized I don't know how this is going to work if I want to lean in to both my career & my ovaries. Esp. breastfeeding.

My adoption application was approved!! I’m hoping to bring her home this weekend. Any advice for a first time cat parent is greatly appreciated! 🙏🏼

Are there any well-off suburbs around Chicago where there's a significant amount of black or mixed race people? Significant meaning 40-50%+. I've seen a lot of nice black suburbs in southern and eastern cities but less in the midwest. In an interracial relationship and want to get an idea if there are any suburbs where our kids would feel represented or if we'll need to move down south for that.

Only divorce services for uncontested and amicable divorces

Has anyone one been in the interracial relationship(s)? How was your experience?

The biggest thing I keep running and running around my head- after 8 months, why did he drop me? When he texted ending it l….it wasn’t me, like we weren’t us, his words were from someone else, like I didn’t matter. It doesn’t matter how much it wasn’t about me, how he chose to end it, and that’s what crushed me. Who I thought I knew was wrong. I want to know how close he was to loving me.

Random Thought: I love my therapist and I just realized the things I talk to her about I wish I could talk to my parents about. Which made me realize, is that why people have such close relationships with their parents and why they call them all the time? Are people actually getting counseling from their parents?

Anyone raising desi kids in the US? What are are some of your fears?

Debating when to have the first baby… would you say having a baby is totally worth it ? Worth all the struggles and sacrifices? Or should I wait an extra year just to save more money and enjoy life now without the extra sacrifices… (female 27 & want to have 2 kids)

Partners with kids and a working spouse, how do you manage? Is it realistic for both people in the relationship to work full time long term? How do you keep marriage going and career progressing?

I am an elementary school teacher. My oldest son is feeling drawn to ECE. He loves children, loves to help in vacation bible school, wants to work directly with people to help them. Thoughts?

How are all the lovely ladies doing today?! It's one of those days for me... Trying very hard with every breath to not check his profile and see what he's up to...
He broke up with me almost 2 months ago and it's just been death.
Some days very good and busy and powering through. Other days are hell. Pure hell

If you could go back and start over would you still choose this path? Or would you choose a different career and/or a different time to have children? I accidentally became a working parent in law so while I love my job and my children I don't think I would have planned it quite like this.

Salam. 23M here - all my life I’ve had my back on our faith - never really prayed but had imaan (I guess). After bouts of depression from girl problems (🙄), issues within immediate family, being disappointed expectations I had for myself, etc. I’ve been working on bettering my situation over the years. Faith is the only area where I think I need more guidance. Having trouble relating to friends or family about this. Anyone else been thru something similar? How have you connected back to Islam?

A long post: seeking some perspective. My husband of 2 years that I’ve been in a relationship with for more than 8 years just woke up one day and told me that he’s unhappy in our relationship. I’m devastated because he’s never expressed anything like this in the 8 years. He’s been super supportive and loving, even when we were in a long distance relationship. He supported my career and dreams and this just doesn’t make sense. We have gotten a counselor but things aren’t getting better. Comment>

Can you have a nanny while in h1b and pay taxes ?

Clever ways to get cheaper housing? What's your hack to beat the system?

Married, 2 kids under 3 yrs. Apartment is too small, but we can't afford bigger. Do we rent a 2-story house and split it with another family? Do we stay in our small apartment and get creative with bunk beds and storage solutions?

How can a family, with kids, and one crappy income ($82,000) get a comfortable living situation here?

Hi Folks,
I am having 10 months experience in procurement sourcing.
Can anyone refer me for any role in Mumbai?

Anyone have advice on how to approach a re-applicant essay asking what you’ve done since you last applied? My only update is a promotion…

Thank GOD I've found my people! It is SOOO hard to talk freely about things going on right now. Those of us at my school who support Trump, do so as if we're in "underground" communications with hushed tones while scoping out our environment.

The unending cycle is for real. Reached my LeanFIRE number 2 months ago, yet I don’t feel satisfied. Still reaching for the stars… when will this human desire end?

Senior SE estimated OTE for Chicago/ Dallas? Thoughts on pre-sales role compared to consulting?

Hi fishes, andaru ye ye areas lo untaro chepte nearby vallu weekends lo meet up plan cheskovachu.

I'll go first.

Hyderabad -KPHB

Anyone up for watching Liger movie tomorrow evening at Kharadi?

During a 90 minute model test are you typically expected to build out the full pro forma B/S?

Do investment and operating partners get paid significantly differently in VC? My understanding is they do in PE, but curious about VC

Facial skin is rough with ingrown hair (especially chin, neck, sideburns) due to constant tweezing. Doc recommends facial hair remover. I am afraid that will ruin skin. Any mild hair remover suggestions that work well on brown skin?

Just wanted to say that this group inspired me to book my first facial in my 32 years of life! So excited!!

Has anyone seen or tried those anti-wrinkle straws? They kind of look like a hook but I was wondering if they actually helped or if they were simply gimmicked?

28F, Boston, lawyer at big4. Let’s goooooo! DM me.

Those of you who have worked both in India and US - what are the biggest cultural differences you’ve noticed? All else being constant (like industry, type of work, etc)

Do you agree the US Immigration process needs to change Y/N only

Seems like it's gonna be a gloomy, rainy day tomorrow..that means I'm gonna be extra miserable at work. 🙄 #donttalktome

Need advice and help.

I have realized I grew up in a household where my dad did not treat my mom as an equal. He belittles her, is rude and convinced his way is the only way.

It is painful to say, but some of this shows up in me and in my relationship. I am starting to catch myself, and it to me seems to be more of a reaction than anythjng that is ever intentional.

Wondering if anyone has dealt with something similar, and any success in making changes besides therapy. Cont. in comments

Has this ever happened to you that each time you meet your bf/gf , there is extreme nervousness from both sides ? It’s a good kind of nervousness (shyness , awkwardness) and almost feels like meeting someone you have known forever for the first time?

How do I figure out spending with my SO? Initially I was paying for 90% of stuff (no actual bills, just going out). I talked to her and said we need to be more even. She was never proactive. She kind of got offended but we ended on a good note to split things. It went well for a couple weeks but now it's back to normal. She never takes out her card and only venmos me if I send her the request. She lets Venmos sit for weeks before paying them. I still let a lot of things slide.

Went on a short coffee date with a person who was nice, but I just don’t think we’re compatible. What’s a kind text I can send to explain, after they said we should see each other again?

Dating my guy for 6 months now and he’s just such a lovely soul but I’m not physically attracted, there’s no spark and I’m afraid to let go but also afraid to keep holding on..

Reading Untamed by Glennon Doyle and I want my own Abby!!! Sigh.....

A long post: seeking some perspective. My husband of 2 years that I’ve been in a relationship with for more than 8 years just woke up one day and told me that he’s unhappy in our relationship. I’m devastated because he’s never expressed anything like this in the 8 years. He’s been super supportive and loving, even when we were in a long distance relationship. He supported my career and dreams and this just doesn’t make sense. We have gotten a counselor but things aren’t getting better. Comment>

Met a guy thru a mutual friends. Our first date was a day trip together. He couldnt come to a group event this week bc of work but I ended up to his house to hookup after (my idea). He hasnt texted me about meeting up this weekend...do you think i should text him? Getting feelings for him and worried i should back off before getting hurt.

Hi all,

What do you think is a bare minimum CTC required to sustain a good married life considering life in a metro city. I do earn about 15LPA. So how much should. I look for in a guy?

My girlfriend is willing to break off our entire relationship because she found out my mom doesn't approve of her. We have no issues between each other but she said she can't be with someone who's family doesn't like her.

Meeting people while in consulting and in your early 30s...? Possible?

Asking for a friend - anyone staying in a marriage just for the kid(s)?

It's not like the marriage is terrible or unhealthy, but they would take an out if not for having had the kids.

Anyone else experience this? I'm wondering how common this is.

Anyone have any similar experience or insight? My boyfriend asked for space/not really together anymore and he says he started to become nervous about being in a long term committed relationship. Even tho he said he saw me as long term & I’m his best friend and he loves me but why then? Does space help you guys figure it out? (Help / advice please😞)

My bf has asked me to help him quit the ecigs and told me he’ll probably hide them from me but he wants me to take them. So I have for the past week. He really only keeps them in his pocket, 1 drawer

My date won’t share his playlist with me (I can listen to it but he won’t share it). Just curious, is playlist a big deal to guys? We are both at early 20s and only dated for a week

GF is 32 and I’m 28. She wants kids within 2 years, understandably. I never envisioned having kids that early (more like late 30s), but I like her a lot. Anyone else gone through something similar?

Asker outers- make reservations. I’m tired of going to dinner or drinks and finding out my date’s plan is winging it and the place doesn’t have space. Make a reservation!! It takes one min!!

I just came home sobbing because I got too drunk at my female best friends house and her husbands male friend tried to take advantage of me when we were left alone in a hot tub. My boyfriend didn’t ask if I was okay but instead screamed at me, threw things and left the house. Dumping him is the only logical answer?? Am I crazy?

Folks that got a prenup. How and where did you get it? We have spoken to a couple of lawyers and it simply seems to be a back and forth they want to do to rack up billable hours/complicate the issue. My SO and I pretty much know what we want. We are doing it mainly to protect my SOs inheritance. Looking for the simplest way to execute this. TIA for any advice.

I went through my gf’s phone and found out she had a crush on my best friend when we first started dating (over a year ago). I suspected this at first but it hurts to have it confirmed and see her telling her friends about him. I’m not sure how I should feel since I went out of line to look through her phone.