Is life with a partner better than life without a partner? I've been working really hard on improving myself both physically and mentally to make myself attracted to a partner but I still basically strike out and have been single for close to a decade at this point. I don't know if there's something fundamentally wrong with me or if maybe just some people aren't supposed to have partners. I like my life and have a lot of goals I'm working towards but it is getting awfully lonely.

Hello Fishes,
Hope everyone is doing well!

I'm currently looking for a job change, having a total experience of 10 years in Motion Graphics, 2D Animation, Video Editing & Graphic Design. I'm working as an Assistant Design Managar at my current organization.

Can anyone help me guide about the roles at Gartner which suits my profile. Also it will be a great help if you can refer me too.

Question: Are employers legally allowed to deduct pay from your paycheck without your knowledge or approval?

Anyone else the last to be informed about ANYTHING at their site? I am only a second year SPED teacher and my eyes are already wide open to the fact that admin and Gen Ed teachers so often fail to inform me about important things regarding the grade levels I teach and other school events. Then I’m left scrambling to inform my students and parents of essential information, and I’m embarrassed! My aides also look at me like why don’t you know this? Aggravating.

Poll: would you take a job for a lot less than you’re making now but you’d work half the hours and have a lot less stress, yet still be doing work that motivates and inspires you (and builds your portfolio)?

Hi! I’m new to consulting & new to luxury fashion.
Would some of you share your favorite places for inspiration and ideas on new and vintage style?
And feel free to sprinkle in some favorite places you shop, entry level pieces for women, or advice in general!

#metoo finally hits biglaw. Looks like a mess at DLA Piper, and Jones Day for that matter...

How do you handle a 3 months notice period when you start looking out for jobs. No recruiter is interested when you say 3months NP.

Seattle native in DC tomorrow during Hawks game. Best place to watch game near Georgetown?

Trying to get a 45 y/o sibling in to consulting (was an entrepreneur prior in the restaurant industry). No college degree but willing to bust his but to learn. Books/online courses recommended pls

You know how when you do something bad to someone else you get bad karma w that person? Who decided who was in the wrong? What if you both think you’re right? Who gets the karmic debt?

Recently sold my car on carvana. I had initially bought it using a loan from DCU. Now that carvana has paid me the balance after paying of the loan, i still see on the dcu app that I owe money to dcu. People that can relate, can you take me through next steps?

T20 spoiled ODI batting behavior.

Hi IBM sharks,
My friend received bluepoints, what's the conversion rate to rupees? Can we redeem it as cash components?@ IBM

Which credit card do you think is the best for ME consultants?

Most/Least stressful areas of practice (in either transition or litigation)

Burnout: cyclical and becomes so debilitating that I find myself unable to do simple every day tasks. How often do you burnout? What does it entail for you?

Does anyone have any advise when it comes to navigating getting help and your firm. I had a tough month mentally. But I reached out to my local bar’s LAP. I’m starting the process of seeing a therapist. But my dreads still here. I’m panicking about being short on hours, falling behind on my cases and explaining to my boss I know I’m behind at work but I am working on it. Any advise will be greatly appreciated.

Choose to be happy today

Is it me or does depression in big law mostly affect single overworked women around age 30?

What about legal work is currently causing your mental health struggles?

Mine’s the hours, which is not normally my issue. I billed 230 for June and July and am already at 145 for August. My ability to focus is getting worse by the day, so I’m working longer to bill the same hours and have had to pull a couple all nighters. I burst into tears this morning when a client changed plans and now wants a major project by end of month, on top of my other deadlines next week... I just want to sleep.

Has anyone had good experiences taking ashwagandha for daily stress?

When I was going into courtrooms, a bad night of sleep didn’t matter-I’d snap to attention as soon as I got into court. I’m doing phone hearings now and the focus isn’t there as much. Any ideas?

Does anyone have experience breaking up w a therapist? I've been seeing my therapist for 5+ years for eating disorder treatment and we've been through so much together, but I don't think she's able to help me anymore. While I've stopped my ED behaviors, they've evolved into OCD, and I'm finding that her methods might be making it worse. I think I want to try an OCD expert instead. But I don't know how to end the relationship. Do I just stop going? Do I explain myself? I don't know what to do 🥺

I’ve been working to an unhealthy degree lately. And I’ve been making the excuse that I have a lot of work right now, but I’m starting to wonder if I’m addicted to it. Part of it is anxiety and perfectionism. But my behavior is now actively harmful to myself and starting to harm my marriage.

How do I stop? I’m not talking work-life balance. I mean, how do I say, “I don’t care that the client wants this tomorrow and I’m not close to done, I’m going to sleep tonight”?

Mental health issues in our profession are finally being recognized. While mental health issues are not unique to lawyers, the profession and it's client service mantra present unique challenges.

I’ve had a really tense, emotionally exhausting week. Things wrapped up yesterday and now my body feels so strung out and exhausted. Any tips for coming down from being so strung out without relying on toxic habits and just shutting down/procrastinating? (My brain is saying “go for a run” and my body is getting stuck picking at my eyebrows for two hours) I feel like my central nervous system is on a roller coaster.

People with depression in big law- how do you manage? How do you meet your hours? The lack of support/training and being remote has been very hard on me.

Wish apps like BetterHelp were free. I can’t afford healthcare or therapy (I’m unemployed, and yes, I’ve tried seeking pro bono therapy options — no place anywhere nearby offers it.) I really need a therapist I can talk to on at least a weekly basis to just unpack so much that’s bogging me down to the point of being unable to function some days, but it’s just so cost prohibitive! What sucks is everyone assumes this career hands you median wages on a platter but I’m worse off than I’ve ever been.

When covid first hit, I was delighted to be working from home. My hours even improved. Now, because of some triggering events, I’m dealing with horrible panic attacks on the daily. I’m dissociating and can’t focus long enough to get work done. I JUST hit a year at this firm and am going on a one month stress leave. Worried I might not kick this mental state in that time. Any advice as to what I can do while on leave so I can come back focused and ready to work?

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SEEKING OPINIONS & FEEDBACK: I love the honest & practical discussions here, where people can freely identify things that are going on & seek guidance.

Wondering whether anybody’d be interested in some kind of more purposeful community- i.e., gathering w/fellow lawyers to pursue some specific mental health & well-being goals? We’d provide some counseling/coaching type content, in bite sized chunks, but have regular discussions to connect & encourage one another on applying the content IRL.

Anyone participating in dry January or done similar things in the past? Did you notice an effect on mental health or other benefits?

Anyone here willing to share their firsthand experience of searching for and selecting a therapist? My wife was kind enough to vet a few through our church and her friends, but wondering if I might find a better fit with a therapist who specializes in working with lawyers or small business owners.