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Folks,

Wanted to know your thoughts on KPMG Singapore, hows WLB in tech consulting?
Any idea on Projects in APAC?

How have people in this community found the shift to leadership. In my personal experience I found individual contribution tough but then did much much better as a people / team leader. Is this just me or reflective of the broader group here?

My spouse feeling sharp pain in near to lungs while sleep either right or left side. PCP said it might be post covid effect but had covid 6 months back. We are talking to pulmonologist for details and yet to confirm the appointment meanwhile I wanted to know if anyone in this group has similar kind of issues?? Thanks

I have a really hard time without my medication, but most of the time when I do take it, I get terrible acid reflux and also lose my appetite. I was on adderall but switched to Focalin, but still having the same issue. Anyone experienced this??

Hi Fishes,
I have 7yoe. 4 years as consultant and 3 years as SAP TESTER. Now i have a SAP testing opportunity at Mexico on the other hand i am preparing to switch as consultant again. Which is better for long term in terms of money and career? SAP TESTING at mexico or SAP consultant for long run. Thank you all in advance.

Just watched Shang-Chi on Disney Plus. Feel awkward for saying this but I didn’t like it at all. Felt like a kung fu / self discovery / wise old Chinese master movie masquerading as a Marvel superhero film. And it was all serious without the cute cuddly funny Kung Fu Panda bits.

Anyone stay at the London Moxy Excel? Just going to be in London for a short time, so not expecting it to be near the same level as some of the central London hotels, but curious about the quality

Truthfully, how much do you milk your hours in your time sheet for FDD

finishing freelance job this week and looking for junior/associate producer openings in NYC!

Which one is better from career perspective
FIS global or Finastra

Hii all ....
Can anyone give me some info regarding project allocation in tiger analytics?
It has been 3 months since I joined...still not allocated to any project.....
I am little worried about the recession news coming......

Hello Guys,
YoE: 8 Yrs

I have an offer from Deloitte India, Deloitte US and IBM.

Which one is good is better in terms of
- Project
- Onsite
- Work life balance

“Chicks dig scars” thoughts on this?

Hi all , need a suggestion. I am currently getting an offer of 40 lpa in India with one of the FAANG companies . The role is not in a fancy team and is okayish.

My company has promised me a transfer to KL Malaysia with a salary of 2,40,000 MYR (~43 lpa) but since I am in consulting , my options would remain open in terms of exit and this can open up South East Asia market for me.

I am confused as to which direction to take. Please let me know your pov in terms of opportunities in SEA, salary

Being recognized for my “talent” ie I iterate like I will die if I don’t make all possibilities, and given more control and management responsibilities are all good and positive things for my career but I really wished I felt excited and vindicated, and not just this intense weariness at the prospect of doing this more

Does anyone have any advice about dealing with a gaslighting partner who is my direct superior? Have tried talking to the partner as a way to be on the same page but to no avail.

Is 30 lpa (fixed) a good CTC for a PM with 4 years of experience in a SaaS company? Total experience: 8 years.

How is selection and catalogue team at Amazon?

I’ve been working to an unhealthy degree lately. And I’ve been making the excuse that I have a lot of work right now, but I’m starting to wonder if I’m addicted to it. Part of it is anxiety and perfectionism. But my behavior is now actively harmful to myself and starting to harm my marriage.

How do I stop? I’m not talking work-life balance. I mean, how do I say, “I don’t care that the client wants this tomorrow and I’m not close to done, I’m going to sleep tonight”?

How should I approach an ominous zoom appointment with supervisinpartner and managing partner? I’m a 3rd year associate. This is a new job, my first day was the first day the whole firm worked from home. It’s also much more challenging and demanding than my previous firm, which is what I wanted, but I haven’t been able to dive in and face the challenge the way I had planned to because I’m really struggling with working from home, both logistically and psychologically....

Any 🐠 here with fibromyalgia that have managed to deal with sudden flare ups impacting timeline of return of deliverables? Yesterday and today have been complete washes due to first, all over body pain and today, added brain fog and extreme fatigue. I can’t think, can barely lift a pinky. I have items that I expected to get out but are now taking longer and not getting the focus I’d usually bring. Has FM interrupted your schedule before and how did you deal with it?

Does anyone have experience breaking up w a therapist? I've been seeing my therapist for 5+ years for eating disorder treatment and we've been through so much together, but I don't think she's able to help me anymore. While I've stopped my ED behaviors, they've evolved into OCD, and I'm finding that her methods might be making it worse. I think I want to try an OCD expert instead. But I don't know how to end the relationship. Do I just stop going? Do I explain myself? I don't know what to do 🥺

How do i direct message someone

I've been working from home for the last six months and had this constant urge to eat treats I find anywhere around the house. My two daughters find it humorous, but it has rarely made me feel good. Kindly, what can I do to stop?

People with depression in big law- how do you manage? How do you meet your hours? The lack of support/training and being remote has been very hard on me.

I’ve been struggling with finding the right antidepressant. I started a few months ago but had really bad side effects and stopped (headaches, lethargy, nausea, inability to concentrate). The withdrawal is just as bad. I’ve noticed that I made mistakes when my mind was in a haze and just can’t seem to work. I think I need to find an antidepressant that works for me but I’m nervous it’s going to make work that much harder. Do I tell someone at my firm? If so, how?

Does anyone else feel like having kids is the only acceptable reason to not be in the office 24/7? If I choose not to have children, do I not have any valid reason to have a life outside work?

Anyone here willing to share their firsthand experience of searching for and selecting a therapist? My wife was kind enough to vet a few through our church and her friends, but wondering if I might find a better fit with a therapist who specializes in working with lawyers or small business owners.

I’m at the point that I start trembling every time I get an email alert. It’s the little things piling up that is getting to me. The to do list full of, “send emails to X about Y,” “follow-up re this,” “revise the 100 small things the baby lawyer drafted.” Tasks that might take 15 minutes to an hour individually, but all together it’s a lot. I’m the bottle neck. I’m the one who needs to move these things along. But there’s always something bigger and more urgent. Nothing’s ever FINISHED.

3rd yr here in a mid size firm. I’ve been struggling in the mental health dept. I was on leave for 3 wks and have returned to work in June. However, i still feel like a corpse everyday and have zero motivation to do anything. I have noticed my work product declining and I feel extremely burnt out with no hope for the future. I have been trying to get appointment with a psychiatrist but they are either not working or booked up. I want to get better but don’t know where/who to turn to. Advice?

Mental health issues in our profession are finally being recognized. While mental health issues are not unique to lawyers, the profession and it's client service mantra present unique challenges.

question of the day: why did you join this bowl? Since I asked, I will start: I’ve been on a journey of recovery from legal-overachiever-workaholism. Changed jobs, city and environment and still working hard to recover from burnout that is, unfortunately, part and parcel of the legal profession.

Does anyone have any advise when it comes to navigating getting help and your firm. I had a tough month mentally. But I reached out to my local bar’s LAP. I’m starting the process of seeing a therapist. But my dreads still here. I’m panicking about being short on hours, falling behind on my cases and explaining to my boss I know I’m behind at work but I am working on it. Any advise will be greatly appreciated.

Reminder to everyone: use your 2021 vacation time. Don’t let it pass you by just because you’re not traveling. Take a long weekend once a month to nap and eat chips in sweat pants all day. We all need to do our part to normalize self care, and sitting at home doing “nothing” is just as worthy of a vacation day as pina coladas on the beach.

Is it me or does depression in big law mostly affect single overworked women around age 30?

Burnout: cyclical and becomes so debilitating that I find myself unable to do simple every day tasks. How often do you burnout? What does it entail for you?

When I was going into courtrooms, a bad night of sleep didn’t matter-I’d snap to attention as soon as I got into court. I’m doing phone hearings now and the focus isn’t there as much. Any ideas?