Is it me or does depression in big law mostly affect single overworked women around age 30?

Hi everyone
I got an offer from Telstra for Microservices Software Engineer developer role.

YOE: 3.9
Techstack: Java, Spring Boot, Microservices, AWS, Docker, and Kubernetes.

could you please tell me what will be work life balance and job security at Telstra Hyderabad.

Thanks

Was the advertising industry always such a sweatshoppy, bad WLB industry? Or is the more of a modern thing?

Anybody taken adhd meds while pregnant? Or quit because you were pregnant? How did work go?

Hey guys I have offer from cisco system and checkpoint cyber security . Checkpoint is offering x+5 in base where as cisco is offering similar amount in joining bonus. Overall per year ctc is also differs by 3 lac (y+3) in checkpoint .

So considering recession and mass layoff which one will be right option to select in terms wlb, job security and future growth .

FYI : checkpoint is starting r&d division in India I will be first person to be hired for the same role.

At the donor egg phase and just not dealing with it well. Having all kinds of regrets if I tried hard enough. Maybe should have ate better, tried all these different things. Did I do IVF too quickly? Some say IVF makes your eggs worse. Is this true???

Can we pin a post with recommendations for professionals and therapists that you can trust in your geographic location? If so, I’ll start in the comments with my recommendation.

Hai Fishes I have offer from infosys and Accenture

Skillset Pega can you please help me to choose a better company with WLB and career growth?!

Has anyone ever used Accutane and then several years later you still have small, occasionally breakouts? Any suggestions?

I found a place with great reviews to be diagnosed for ADHD, but it’s through virtual appointments, is this a normal thing?

If our mental health is not good at the moment, how do we convey it to the team? Most of the folks in my team take such things lightly and I feel weird to let them know about it. So I just have to lie and put a sick leave.
Also, even before friday ends, I start to stress about monday… and I think that is wrong. We should look forward to work and not stress about it but sadly the people around me here make me want to leave the office.
Please tell me what to dooo?

Has anyone left big 4 or other PA firms tax transaction service groups for industry (or know of anyone)? What was the role and salary bump, how are annual bonuses/raises in industry, what is a typical work week (hours) like? I don’t think I can take this always on just to stay afloat life much longer. For context I am considered a high performer, am near the top of the salary band at my level and have a great supporting network at Deloitte. It’s just not worth it to have zero personal life.

Hi All,

I have offers in,
Fidelity Investment (equity sec) : 20.5 LPA + 3.0 L (variable) = 23.5 LPA
Wipro (Apple project) : 25LPA
Verizon : 26 LPA
I have got my retention proposal for 23.5 LPA at my current company.

Do anyone have idea on wlb in FIS and verizon. Is it a good idea to accept retention..
Which one to choose?
YOE: 8.0
Teach stack : java, Spring boot,Microservice, docker..

I just started taking mirtazapine again b/c depression has completely taken over my life.

Not looking forward to the weight gain 😕

Is a TRX sufficient for getting back into shape? I’ve definitely wasted these past two months but I probably won’t be going back to work until after July so I’ve got time to build a foundation once gyms open back up at a decent capacity

Has anyone here tried pregmune?

Helper had to get surgery and will require post op care. Anyone aware of any places in Singapore that are able to assist? We are not in a position to fully provide care 24/7

Ok, I haven’t done an HSA previously, but considering it for my family during this next open enrollment. What do I need to know about high deductible plans? How do y’all feel about the HSA - any downsides? I’m honestly a little worried about the higher OOP costs, but we’re also not significant users/consumers of healthcare, knock on wood. Anyone regret it and go back to a normal PPO/POS insurance?

What does bench life look like for you?
For me a typical day looks like this
9 am- sign in and check emails
930-11 : look for a new job
11-2 lunch and nap
2-3 : sometimes meetings, mostly begging people for billable work
3-4:30 - proposal work if I have it or more job hunting
5-9pm family time and dinner
10-3am - netflix, videogames, cry myself to sleep

Started at a big firm in July with high hopes- in the career path I wanted and I would be joining with other new grads.
After onboarding, it’s as if my team forgets about us every day. The training is non existent, there doesn’t seem to be any initiative to invest in new hires, my manager scolds me for not knowing enough yet gives no direction. I don’t want to waste time (colleagues mentioned it doesn’t get much better from here). Do I embrace the suck or look for other opportunities?

Anyone joining cerner for client support in coming days?

I’m hoping this bowl can commiserate with my disappointment that ESPN is airing collegiate football instead of today’s quali...

Is there any active and responsive group for SAP, can someone share the link?

For those of you who moved from the US to the EU, what was the process like? What would you do differently?

Hi All,

I have offers from following companies. I am java backend developer. Only 7 days remaining in my notice period. Please suggest which one to choose. Years of experience 3.5 years

Accenture Bangalore

ADP Hyderabad

Ericsson Bangalore

McK/Bain fish, do you guys get free leatherbound notebooks?

Joining D soon in S&O. Apparently my group has exposure to Monitor projects on occasion. Anyone in Monitor free to connect so I can confirm a couple of things?
Thanks

Hi guys, i am new to automation.
Is it possible to automate a software (not browser automation)?

Eg. Can be suppose ms word we can go to any menu item and sub menu item etc.

Hello Scrummasters
I'm looking into getting a ScrumMaster certification. Do you have any advice on the best way to do it? I see the three options listed below.

Please share your experience with any of these or any advice in general with costs, the exams or anything in general that was helpful to you as a newly certified SrumMaster. Thank you in advance!

1. Professional Scrum Master™ I (PSM I) through srum com
2. Certified ScrumMaster® (CSM) through ScrumAlliance
3. Scrum Master by Scrum Inc.™

Where are people traveling to these days?

How to find a hobby?
24/m moved to a new city and I need to build a social cycle here.
I’m making progress, but I’m noticing that I don’t really have a hobby. Precovid travelling was my hobby but now that it’s gone I feel a little “lost”. I also loved going to the range but was diagnosed with epilepsy so I can’t anymore
I bought a car to go on roadtrips and hikes but it still gets a little lonely. Also noticing that a lot of my friends are starting to be in relationships so we spend less time tg

Found an apartment by W 39th street and 8th ave - any know if this area is safe?

Hi All,

I am in processs of getting offer from Deloitte India. But even after submitting all documents still dint get offer letter...they are saying pending with business. Does it mean offer is cancelled or something like that

Hi Fishes,

How is Birlasoft company overall ? please do comment as per your exp. It is urgent.

#wlb #projects #work-culture #growth

Am I the only one who has my employer's name tattooed on my ass? #worklifebalance #whoshiring #futuretrophywife #lolnahfuturecenterfoldsheadliner

I have chronic health issues and I’m severely depressed. I can’t even get myself to work anymore. If I don’t quit, I’m in serious danger of being fired. I feel that I need to just quit and take time off to get better but feel that it will be a stain on my career. I’m a pretty junior lawyer. Any advice. I just can’t do any work at all and I’m my anxiety and depression is spiraling out of control. I see a therapist I try to cope and it’s not working.

What did y’all actually want to be when you grew up?

Does anyone else feel like having kids is the only acceptable reason to not be in the office 24/7? If I choose not to have children, do I not have any valid reason to have a life outside work?

If you’re reading this, go drink some water!

Most/Least stressful areas of practice (in either transition or litigation)

Guilt and shame about working in a legal position for years where, instead of using my law degree (was supposed to do legal work per the job posting), I served as a personal assistant to my boss/did nothing for maybe half the time. I feel like I was paid for work I didn't do. I've since left that job but the guilt and shame remains. I feel that I lack the character of a lawyer and that I am unworthy of the profession. I don't know how to make up for the lost years or how to forgive myself.

SEEKING OPINIONS & FEEDBACK: I love the honest & practical discussions here, where people can freely identify things that are going on & seek guidance.

Wondering whether anybody’d be interested in some kind of more purposeful community- i.e., gathering w/fellow lawyers to pursue some specific mental health & well-being goals? We’d provide some counseling/coaching type content, in bite sized chunks, but have regular discussions to connect & encourage one another on applying the content IRL.

People with depression in big law- how do you manage? How do you meet your hours? The lack of support/training and being remote has been very hard on me.

Anyone participating in dry January or done similar things in the past? Did you notice an effect on mental health or other benefits?

I’ve been working to an unhealthy degree lately. And I’ve been making the excuse that I have a lot of work right now, but I’m starting to wonder if I’m addicted to it. Part of it is anxiety and perfectionism. But my behavior is now actively harmful to myself and starting to harm my marriage.

How do I stop? I’m not talking work-life balance. I mean, how do I say, “I don’t care that the client wants this tomorrow and I’m not close to done, I’m going to sleep tonight”?

Mental health issues in our profession are finally being recognized. While mental health issues are not unique to lawyers, the profession and it's client service mantra present unique challenges.

Choose to be happy today

I’ve been struggling with finding the right antidepressant. I started a few months ago but had really bad side effects and stopped (headaches, lethargy, nausea, inability to concentrate). The withdrawal is just as bad. I’ve noticed that I made mistakes when my mind was in a haze and just can’t seem to work. I think I need to find an antidepressant that works for me but I’m nervous it’s going to make work that much harder. Do I tell someone at my firm? If so, how?

How do i direct message someone

Gripe- there is no room for a sick day in this profession. Big closing coming up. Have a bad cold. Have billed 40+ hours in the last 3 days.

Why do lawyers celebrate a culture of poor health?

Is anyone else experiencing a new wave of covid anxiety due to the stress of figuring out the holidays? Got in an argument with a family member about safety guidelines and testing needing to happen and I’ve been feeling paralyzed by anxiety all day.

When I was going into courtrooms, a bad night of sleep didn’t matter-I’d snap to attention as soon as I got into court. I’m doing phone hearings now and the focus isn’t there as much. Any ideas?

Anyone here willing to share their firsthand experience of searching for and selecting a therapist? My wife was kind enough to vet a few through our church and her friends, but wondering if I might find a better fit with a therapist who specializes in working with lawyers or small business owners.

I’ve had a really tense, emotionally exhausting week. Things wrapped up yesterday and now my body feels so strung out and exhausted. Any tips for coming down from being so strung out without relying on toxic habits and just shutting down/procrastinating? (My brain is saying “go for a run” and my body is getting stuck picking at my eyebrows for two hours) I feel like my central nervous system is on a roller coaster.