Known something was wrong with me as far back as I can remember - some exceptional abilities (STEM), but serious deficits (social skills, sensory processing, attention). Mostly thrived in my career with people who tolerated my quirks when they saw what I could do. Tentatively diagnosed with Asperger's in 2001, but there was no info or help. High Functioning Autism sort of confirmed ~2018, plus ADHD inattentive and depression. Employer denied accommodation request, laid me off 2020...

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Nothing wrong with you, friend! I never thought my aspie friends were “off” and now I know why ;). We just process our own way and the world wasn’t built for it/ready for it. But now we are building a lot of tech. Wag the dog a bit ;).

I was kind of farmed and taken advantage of for 13 years (first 3 permatemp) because I didn’t know what I was other than high-performing. I never pushed for the salary others were making or even credit for all of my work. My employers both laid me off while on leave - COWARDS. I had to go on leave for exhaustion more than once. Employers do not always share our tendency toward loyalty. They are often aware of how to manipulate us. Try not to take it personally. It is not a shortcoming on our part. Just a different connection. If you are like me, you love the code. Some people like the money they make from our passions too.

Not all anyone, of course, but greed and exploitation seem a little more free and easy these days, unfortunately.

I’m sorry this happened to you. But nothing is *wrong* with you. We are all born perfect, with our own strengths and weaknesses. Nature decides. We just have to roll with the hand we are dealt.

I was diagnosed with ADHD in my 30s, and it looks like I went for the high score on self-tests for ASD just a few months back (nearly 20 years later - let’s say I missed some jokes over the years). We all had to adapt to things kids today are lucky to get help with (if they can even get in for diagnosis). A menagerie of coping mechanisms. Considering we were often misunderstood and even punished because of neurodiversity, the fact that we can find cool work we are good at and each other for support, we are doing okay….mostly.

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