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Today is my first day back at work (and first full day back in my physical office) after a few weeks off for parental leave. Needless to say, I am struggling to stay focused on anything other than wanting to go back home to my spouse and child. I know I shouldn't take an emotional temperature on day one, but it has been more difficult being back than I anticipated. Any tips for navigating the waters for the first day/week/month back?

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Ugh I’ve been there and it’s so hard- just try to chunk it out as much as possible- take it 1 day at a time - take breaks and check in with your baby if you can- and that coming home moment is SO SPECIAL- after a few weeks you’ll see it’s not as hard and after a few months it will become normal but just take it one day at a time- you’ll get through it!

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My only advice is to give it a month to get into a routine. Lots of emotions are normal; don’t make any rash decisions before the month is up! It’s a huge adjustment. Give yourself the space and grace to feel sad/weird/tired/confused while you navigate these first few weeks. You will get there! It will become “normal” eventually — but definitely not on day 1. Congrats on your new addition!

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Honestly I’m in month three of being back and I’m still not where I need to be. I pushed myself too hard at the beginning and am paying for it now. Be kind to yourself!

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