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This isn’t a Fishbowl question. Talk to your wife
I thought if you’re married you share a bank account
You’re a man and husband so your job is to provide for her, including groceries. Don’t be cheap
We’ll see that’s the problem with modern day gender roles. We’ve basically pushed women into the workforce and now they’re expected to work full time and raise a family and take care of the household.
However Islamically his job is still to provide for her regardless. She doesn’t even have to take care of the household or work. Her job, Islamically, is to watch over the household when her husband is away, obey him, and bear children.
Some advice beyond the Islamic guidelines is to have her invest her money into a side business or additional income stream like real estate, their retirement, or children’s educational fund, etc.
Do you do all the house work? (cooking/cleaning etc) Or does she do it all? Or do you both contribute to that since you both work full time?
She’s not required to contribute so you shouldn’t expect it. If she decides to help it’s charity in Islam.
At face value, it’s not an unreasonable request. You are basically asking for $6000 a year to help out with household expenses.
But I feel like we need to dig a little bit deeper. Are you asking this because you truly need the $500 a month or is it more so that you want her to feel like she’s contributing or do not approve the way she’s spending your money or is it more along the lines that you feel like she’s neglecting household stuff and that’s why?
Now Islamicly everything that’s hers is hers. Honestly, I feel like this should just be a simple conversation between you two, but it does sound like there’s another underlying issue.
I understand where your question is coming from. It is your responsibility as the husband to support your wife and family. What she makes is hers, unless she voluntarily surrenders all or part of it to you. This shouldn't be a problem because a dutiful, beautiful, loving wife will want to do all that she can to ease the burden and stress on her husband and the family. Personally, if my wife kept all of her salary in a separate bank account and didn't spend a dime to pay household expenses, groceries, utilities, etc., I would probably wonder why she was saving that money. What we do is have both checks direct deposited to the bank account. We never think of my check as "my" money and her check as "hers." We are one flesh and one bank account. We share the good, the bad and the expensive.
I would not do this nor even recommend it to anyone else, but glad it works for you
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I am talking to someone and thinking of proposing so this was one thing I wasn’t sure about. And I am asking this because if she works full time I don’t know if I should expect her to do all the house work. She can stay home if she wants but if she wants to work I would assume she should still be taking care of the house the same way I would be doing my duties.
Let’s start with what you want and then let’s see what’s allowed. Then you can decide what’s you are comfortable with. Then you can tell her and see what she thinks.
My future wife will be making more than me. I decided I’ll pay all our bills and we use her money for savings