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What do you wish on your ex?
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Keep his stomach full and his balls empty
OP: you need to understand how simple men are.
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Step 1: Marry a man who won’t cheat.
Step 2: Ask your husband what makes him happy. Do that.
Step 3: Tell your husband what makes you happy. Expect that.
If you’re seriously asking this question then talk to a therapist to figure out why you’re worried and what to do about it.
I’ve worked at all over the place, including at Deloitte right now, bye
For me the most important thing is feeling like we are equal partners both working our hardest towards a common goal. Not same output salary whatever but same level of effort. Second is just be nice. Don’t need a lot more than that.
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Make sure his stomach is full and his balls are empty. That’s pretty much it
I am also married and I also approve this message. If you think Maslow's hierarchy of needs, those are in our bottom tier.
Women forget that men are, in general, simple creatures. As a guy I am not saying this in a derogatory way, just point out that we are a lot less complicated, less emotional, less in our heads, and less anxious than women. Broad generalization but largely it holds true.
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Blowies. Inviting friends. Third hole.
Well then I guess you need to find a side piece since he’s going to have one.
1. Don’t let the bedroom become dead
2. Show appreciation and support
3. Don’t nag constantly
Don’t need a mother
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What makes you feel like he won't be? I think you should dig into the source rather than bandaids for it.
I think you just need to get offline the internet
I say you’re a guy fishing here for couples to 🍍. Too apparent 😂
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Men aren’t complicated — if their needs are fulfilled, then they have no reason to cheat, and they have very few needs. But this is something you should’ve found out before the wedding, long before.
Are you married
Be cute and nice to him. He will treat you great
Are you married lol
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Shared value system, prioritize communication, honesty, and time together, and use therapy as maintenance rather than crisis management.
Here's my take as a software engineer looking at biological systems assuming you are a woman.
High levels of cortisol suppresses sexual desire in women. In men, high levels can suppresses testosterone, but the fight or flight response can actually increase sexual desire. There is a mismatch there. Women can shut down sexually and switch to seeking emotional closeness. You're probably feeling miles apart.
Stress is a biological signal in women which tells your body it's not a safe time to conceive children. Men don't suffer from this. Procreate while you can. You can't fight biology. Sorry.
The hormone hack is get him off. Men release oxytocin during sex. That's how you keep him. Just manipulate his biology. As much as you can. That doesn't solve anything for you, but you lower the risk of losing him.
Now address the stressors. Assuming you are a two income household you're probably under a lot of stress. Find ways to destress your household. Take vacation. Hire help. Cut back on your hours. Maybe look for a lifestyle change. Move to a lower cost of living area, so you can avoid the rat race. A lot of relationship issues are stem from worrying about money. Even knowing there is a light at the end of the tunnel is worth it.
Choose a man who’s not an arsehole.
Married for 10 years. Haven’t been laid in probably 2 months+ with all this back to back travel and parenting. No advice I can share. Just my rant and just wanna be heard
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Is 2 months a long time within your relationship (recognize every marriage is different)? How old are your kids?
Hey OP! I'd love to share. I am a male in my late 20s. My wife is the same age and we've been married for 4 years.
I'd say the best way to keep your husband happy and faithful and by having strong communication with one another. Knowing HOW to communicate and having a strong communication will make everything in life easier to navigate while being on the same page from financial goals, to sex, to future planning, etc.
All the men focusing on sex on here is for a reason. Your husband will certainly appreciate you initiating sex and being open to his initiations of sex. If you haven't heard, there are 5 'Love Languages'. Might be fun and worthwhile you and your husband researching each other's language when it comes to giving and receiving love.
I am not proud to say that I have been unfaithful. My wife knows of my unfaithfulness. Thankfully my unfaithfulness didn't end my marriage and the bond between my wife and I was able to be strengthened by the hardship.
What do you think of the suggestion that I should let me husband sleep with others? That seems pretty crazy
Be more intimate even when you don’t want to. It’s simple. For them it’s biological.