Men, at what point would you give a girl you're dating your credit card to use when she's coming to visit you (long distance relationship). Assuming you would trust and be serious enough about her?

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Does she not have a job??

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So OP, you're basically expecting your BF to give you his credit card at some point -- maybe now maybe later but he HAS to give it at some point right? And if he doesn't it means he's not serious, right? Well that's a terrible expectation to have. Why would you peg your relationship and the guys sincerity to a financial transaction? You're better than that. Always offer to pay for yourself and take anything above that as a bonus. You'll feel more empowered and independent. If he's a keeper he will be generous as well. What's guaranteed is that he will know that YOU are sincere and not after his money.

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whyyy does this have to be on fish bowl??

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He also wants the CSR points bonus hah

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Probably in the minority but never. Not unless you're married.

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Buy and load up a throw away card. You can even get them imprinted w a name, hers. Firewall yourself at this point.

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I feel like sometimes there is resentment in relationships when one person feels forced to pay for more than half. Irrespective of income, unless someone actually can't afford something that the other person wants to split, 50:50 is the way to go. The occasional treat on his part should come in every so often out of generosity anyways but there should be no expectation ever for you to get his credit card, unless you are married, or unless he gives it to you without you asking.

Everyone has different comfort levels with money, just my 2c.

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Some notes: OP : in US, earning in USD working at MBB ; LONG DISTANCE BF: earning more - banks, business owner ? . currency stronger than usd, is it GBP. Other questions: did he give the card already and op is thinking what does he think about her. What's the real goal of the question?

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I wouldn't. I did transatlantic for two years and we split costs for that.

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GF and I share a CSR (she's an authorized user). Might as well aggravate the points for our vacations

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Inherent sexism in this post. Why are you only asking men about about giving cards to women? If you made more than the guy, would you give him your card in this circumstance? Would you want to date a guy who expected it? Would you have more or less respect compared to a guy who expected to pay his own way and only do what he could afford? Female here. When I was dating, if a guy offered me his card I would have been insulted.

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Ok so my wording wasn't clear - my bad. He gave it to me of his own accord last time I visited. I in no way asked if expected it! So was wondering whether that is "normal" at some stage in relationships. We are pretty serious but not engaged or anything

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I think the op clarification makes a lot of sense and is something most people would accept.

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Depends where she is on the hot crazy scale

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I do. He earns more and his currency is higher than mine

Why give credit card? Worse case when you are with him you can swipe, but you should keep it. Its not that you can't trust him, its just good for healthy relationship. In case he "really really" needs it only then. Thats on exception basis

Why would she need it? I am assuming the guy is the bigger earner, hence the giver in this scenario, then the biggest expense is the airplane ticket, I would just buy the ticket and give her the confirmation number. If you are dating a girl who can't even foot small airport incidentals till you pick her up at the airport then you have a bigger problem and I would run away.

When we moved in together we each gave each a card for practical reasons. I wouldn't want or need someone's card we split bills etc. ps female here

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Acn 3 - can you explain why you'd be insulted? I would take it as a sign of trust and not an insult... Just wondering what your perspective is

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