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We had a similar situation with my grandfather and ended up arranging an assisted living facility. While it goes counter to our culture, the reality of one of us quitting our jobs to be his full time caregiver wasn’t possible. It takes the pressure off. You can’t be everything at once—don’t be afraid to delegate and respectfully handle this as a family.
Thank you CD1, sometimes it helps to hear this. And with me being the only female in the family, it’s almost expected that I would just take to this like a nurse. I’ve been sleeping in the hospital room with him each night, trying to help my dad and the nurses since there is such a shortage especially now. And I know the patients will suffer with the lack of staff, I already saw it for my self.
Tell him directly what you need from him instead of passively waiting for him to volunteer. Odds are he will do it but assumes you have it covered.
Thank you, I assume both my brother and husband would be more understanding-but I definitely will need to be more blunt
You need to be really clear about what you need from your support system (husband and brother)- and i’m sorry actually that you need to be clear and you’re not being supported more through this. Went through something similar and my boyfriend took time off from work as well as me to help support. Don’t feel bad about work, you can also take state paid leave (FMLA) for this in certain states/places. Talk to your HR department and family. And best of luck <3
Google is good. I wish there was something like a consumer reports guide to elderly-care facilities.
Maybe you can consider hiring someone for “in-home care”? That way, you are still able to be close to your father and avoid the nursing home. It is pricey, but it is one way you can keep your job. Perhaps your brother can share that expense. It will not solve all of your challenges, of course, but you can take them one at a time. Your well-being is very important.
This is a topic that we as women meed to discuss more to know how to manage cultural expectations in the context of the sandwiched generation.
So true, we take care of every one but ourselves! I will look into In home care-I’m not sure if it would be affordable, but willing to try. My next question is how would I find reputable company that does this.
My husband has been taking over responsibilities with our home and kids, but in my culture it is expected for the woman to do all and be super woman. I don’t know what to do. I am asking both husband and brother for more help, but they seem more worried about the next step, what do we do when he comes home-who will take care of him. In our culture we don’t put our elderly parents in a nursing home. So one of us has to be caregiver. I’m at a loss. I’m mentally exhausted and cry all the time, my job has been the most understanding out of everyone and I feel like I am taking too much time off-I don’t want them to regret hiring me. I guess I just needed to vent. But are there other alternatives besides nursing homes? Is there someone else I can talk to to help?