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If life and motherhood has taught me anything, there is no “leaning in” from ages 1-3.5. There is only “grip tightly, try to hang on.”
Thank you for that.
I’m exactly where you are, but mine is just over two. I keep toggling between being pissed off that I haven’t been promoted and being grateful for the ability to be good at my job while having enough flexibility to feel sane and thinking maybe I could have a second working here. But, then said two year old throws a large object at my head while screaming at me and the confusion cycle starts over again. Long story short, I relate.😉
Oh man - I feel this SO MUCH.
I went brand side because Agency life burnt me out. But I'm at a startup because my desire to make a big impact is important. (Not trying to get lost in the corporate BS)
I have a much better work life balance, and my relationship with my 7yo has improved significantly over the last year. I'm a single mom though, so my situation is a bit different.
Recognize what you're feeling, and find a solution that still feeds your need for impact on a business while giving you what you need for your family.
Can totally relate. Of the two situations you outlined, I’ve focused on the latter this year with the birth of my second. Passed up a job opportunity I was excited for because I knew I had to prioritize my family. I don’t regret it (most days 🤪). I know this time with my kids is precious and I won’t be able to get it back.
I’m pregnant with my second child. And I went freelance because I want more flexibility. I don’t want to feel like I don’t work hard enough because I log off for an hour at 6pm to do dinner and bath time.
And honestly - fuck. Kids are way harder in reality. And for me, one is hard enough, I can’t imagine 2 kids and a more intense job.
I believe lean out. Because there’ll be a time when you wanna lean back in.
Work will always be there. But my kids won’t always be this young and dependant on me.
My kids are 5 and 2. I’m glad we had the second. It has been a complete clusterfuck this last year though on the work and home life fronts though. Despite all that - I got promoted during the pandemic. Just here to say - I’m also a compulsive overachiever and you can do it, too! Definitely essential to have a supportive partner and at least some form of childcare though. That has obviously been a really difficult aspect of the pandemic none of us planned for!
+1 to all of this. Keep in mind that us classic over achievers have a hard time down shifting so my advice is have your second and decide after that. I’m realizing after recently returning to work with my second (in a higher position thanks to a mat leave promo) that even when I’m operating at my personal 75-80% mode, I’m doing a better job than most!
I feel this so much and just want to know when I will stop feeling so tired. Soooo tired.
Between ages 4-5
Thanks for all the feedback and support, everyone. It’s nice to know we’re not alone in these circumstances and feelings. Really appreciate all the comments in this thread. ❤️
Yes, hi, it’s me. I’ve never heard someone describe me so well. Compulsive overachiever really nails it. 😅
Can do relate!
This is exactly what I need to see right now. I have a toddler and a baby and I’m debating continuing to fight at my current job (waking up early to work before the kids wake up, working after bedtime), or taking a step back for the next few years. I would miss the money and prestige, but sanity and this time with them might outweigh the paycheck.
Same. Going to have baby in July. My son is 14 months. It’s always a debate in my mind