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Hi all. I am trying to determine if I am being compensated fairly. I am a tax manager (about to start my second year as manager) and have been with EY since staff 1. I was promoted to manager in June 2020 (during covid) and received a 7.5% raise. The class above me has mentioned they received much higher raises during their promotion years. My base salary is now approx. 97K. Any insights would be extremely helpful. Thanks!
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I was in your shoes a few months ago - my son (my 2nd and last) is turning 1 this week! It was easier to get back into it this time - I had a lot more trust in daycare and was happy to have the “break” at work from 2 kid craziness! There will be good days and bad days (home, and work) for sure. Don’t feel guilty for enjoying work, and also don’t feel guilty for leaving work to spend quality time with the kids. Try to crush every minute you are at work so you can get home to those cuties! Here’s a picture of my son enjoying some pasta to make you laugh! Hope you have a great first day back 💪🏼
Awwww so adorable
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Is there anything that you could think of that would help? Modified in office schedule? Reduced hours? A project that would get you excited to be back? A friend you’re looking forward to seeing back at the office? Don’t be afraid to ask for what you need. Try to build out your first week back with things that make you happy. Put you and your new one first.
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Schedule all the coffees. Talk to all of the adults ;)
It’s never easy, but work will help make each moment you spend with your child even more precious and I’ve found the constrained day due to childcare schedules has made me more efficient. For me, it was also refreshing to be back in the adult world, thinking creatively and problem-solving around things that didn’t involve nap schedules.
That said, be deliberate in your new needs as a working parent. I had to set pretty stringent guidelines of when I had to leave to office and when I try to be offline so I can spend time with my son at night (even if it’s just for dinner and bedtime). It doesn’t always work and sometimes I work late into the night to compensate but it helps me feel like I’m doing a better job as a mom. Not everyone will get it, but I hope by being vocal I’m normalizing what a work life balance is (a joke in our industry) and that it’s okay to prioritize your family sometimes.
It’s ok to feel terrified and sad. It’s also OK to not want to go back but not want to be with your kids all day. It’s OK to feel all the things- conflicting or otherwise. I don’t think there’s anything straightforward about having a baby in your body, trying to acclimate them to the world with generosity and love and trying to reorient yourself to the world all at once. For me, minimizing it doesn’t help. Accepting the enormity of it as a beautiful complex thing with good days and bad days does.
Oh. This is so beautiful. Thank you for sharing it. It’s important to remember that it’s ok to not be ok.
Be nice to yourself.
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Ease in if you can. Try to negotiate a wfh day for a few weeks.