Not sure where to ask this question but are there any SAHMs that like it with 2 kids at home? I love my children but 24/7 childcare is beyond 😵‍💫. What resources do you have to make it work? Or are you able to manage it alone??

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I have a gym membership that has childcare while I workout; I visit the library and playground perpetually; I have a good idea of what meals we'll have for the next 2 days (including built-in "easy" meals that I previously made and froze to give myself a break). I think these things are key, at least for me. And yes, it is exhausting some days, but it's more rewarding and beneficial to my family than my corporate job. I have always been pretty independent, disciplined, and flexible, so the SAHM life suits me well.

My in-laws are moving nearby in a few months, so I'll finally have some help soon. And I keep telling myself that eventually the kids will be in public school, and I'll have a little more time for myself soon enough!

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Wow props. The gym care helps a lot. I think the lack of workouts have been contributing to the chronic fatigue but hard to parse out that vs sleep dep. How old are the kids now? Any hired help make it work?

I am not, but my best friend is. She gave up her job and then her masters degree ( will go back to it next year) so she could care for her kiddos. She has 2 under 2 right now. It’s hard and I’ve been a shoulder to cry on a few times honestly.
That being said, she still thinks it’s worth it - she says it take a lot of coordination and orchestration between her, her husband, their baby sitter and daycare.
What specific resources are you looking for assistance with? She definitely has multiple sitters so someone is available when she needs them last minute. She is an excellent orchestrator - she plans out things in advance and to the hour too. Sometimes things don’t work, and you also need to roll with the punches

Congrats 🎉

I was ok at 5w. It’s more like 5m when the compound sleep dep just made everything awful and my husband traveling for work getting to kids out the door on no sleep and then to care for an infant day who was no longer sleeping all day was exhausting. At least with work I have breaks. I was crushing it the first 2 months bc baby slept so much in the day and hormones are still keeping me running. I literally need to hire someone at night to get through bedtime safely. It’s just not an option to do alone or they just cry from 7-10 until they fall asleep from distress of hot potato. Both require pretty intensive nighttime rituals and 2 yo is too jealous to do them together.

How’d you fare with number 2 in this situ? When did you go back to work? Honestly think I’m better returning to my job for sanity and getting a nanny.

Do you have the option to live nearby family? Or close friends? I'd think having close-knit community is key and if you dont have one, I'd rec joining a church or local FB group.
I WFH w mine and its exhausting, without my family, church, and friends id be done for even without the demanding job id still need some time to recooperate

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