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Paul went on IG Live this afternoon after Karine called the police. I have not watched the video, but bloggers report that Paul accused Karine of drinking in front of their son, domestic violence (shoving him), giving him an STD, and being pregnant again. The video ends with Karine asking to be taken to a shelter. Very sad.
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That’s a toxic boss. Your child being in the hospital takes precedence over any business meeting, I don’t care how important the client is. I would jump ship, she’s shown you her true colors.
Whether you get fired or not, it’s time for a new job.
If they fire you can easily hire a lawyer even probono.
The way ppl go live on tik tock! Why isn’t she scared? Does she have anything else that would question one’s integrity?
HR isn't your friend. Document everything and consider filing something with the DOL.
This scum of a human literally asked you to choose capital over your childs life. They don't deserve a job imho.
I second not trusting HR.
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Just work like nothing happened.
I went through a similar experience when my son was 5 months old. My husband took him to a doctor appt and called me to say they were determining if they needed to admit him to the hospital. I stood behind my office door and cried because I was not there. More constructively, I made made sure that never happened again. The difference is that I had a very supportive company.
Document everything about this exchange in case you need to sue. Seriously.
This is BS for sure. If you are fired because of missing one meeting, I’d be shocked, but this is a wake up call to start looking.
You need to leave!! Your boss is unreasonable. Your family is first over anything and your boss should never question that. Please get your resume together and start applying asap.
That’s unreasonable of them. Did you let them know stuff was going down and you couldn’t make it?
Your child was being admitted to the hospital and the boss expected you to leave them and attend a meeting? I would start looking for a new job now even if you have a job to go back to. Quite frankly, I would file a complaint with HR immediately as well
I second documenting everything for unemployment and/or harassment claims.
OP, I’m so sorry to hear that this happened to you especially because one of your children had to be hospitalized. Your boss is being completely unreasonable. I would act like nothing happened, go back to work unless they said you are terminated, go back to work. However, be expecting the worst, prepare for that, and hope for the best. I would also start looking for a new job. Good luck.
The correct response to an employee saying “I’m in the hospital with my child” is “Is there anything you need? Can I send dinner to the hospital? Don’t worry about the meeting tonight, I’d appreciate if you can check in by tomorrow afternoon but literally just a text as I’ll be worried and thinking of you all. Let me know if there is anything you need.”
Are you serious? Who has the nerve to ask a parent to chose between their child or their career? What kind of job/manger is this? What kind of world is this? Sorry this is outrageous!
The questions were actually rhetorical...
This is clearly a sign of a toxic environment. A good manager has great leadership skills, and that involves putting your family before work always. It is not easy to make a decision against the company, but sometimes you can't control everything.
I hope your kid is doing better.🙏
I am so sorry about your child. I hope they are doing better. I am sorry about your company as well. That is unacceptable. If you are in the US, if your child still needs care do you qualify for FMLA or something similar? That would help protect your job. I would also start looking for a different company. Your family always comes first. You are replaceable at your company, you are not replaceable for your child.
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Just go back to your job as if nothing happened. Your family is always #1. Work can either understand or suck it. A job is just that... a JOB. If they don't understand they are not a company you want to invest your time and energy and effort into. Point blank, FULL stop.
Thats ridiculous. I took half the day off today despite having a heavy workload. All deadlines will be met and I was honest to my colleagues that I was going to spend a number of hours with my sister who just had a child and we will go for a walk in a beautiful place that is filled with flowers right now. My colleagues said "you did the correct priority" and that made me so happy. My opinion is that extremely few stuff at work are really urgent, even though the client or some colleagues might believe that. Any normal person would agree that family is more important than work. Your employer is ridiculous if they consider that a meeting is more important than a seriously ill child.
Sounds like your manager is insecure and the fact you weren't at the meeting made him/her look bad. I think managers/bosses should be able to pick up work when there is an emergency. That's part of their job role along with career progression etc. Sounds like they rely heavily on you and when they pressurise and guilt you into choosing your work over your child means that they are too insecure to host calls themselves. Tell your manager that respect goes both ways and joke that if they ever have a crisis, u expect them to choose work 😂 I once had a manager to expected me to host calls during annual leave....I knew it was because they had no clue what was going on and was too scared to admit it.
That’s awful, I’m sorry it happened to you.
What a horrible boss/human being.
This seems very unreasonable and I agree with the majority sentiment that it’s time to look for a new opportunity. However, I’m assuming you’d like to keep your current role until a new opportunity arises. I do believe this should be a concern raised to HR. I bet it’s your not the first one to feel like they’ve been given an impossible ultimatum and maybe HR needs to step in to have a convo with this manager.
Lawyer up and look elsewhere unacceptable 😖
Is said employer Satan?