Has anyone else told their religious parents that they were moving in with an SO before marriage? I did, it didn’t go super well- they disapprove of it (cont)

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Yep. My boyfriend and I live together for a year now. We decided just to not say anything and steer clear from that conversation. We do plan to tell our parents later this year. It was just considered “too early” when we first moved in.

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Thankfully it ended on a more positive note, and they said they still support/love me. Has anyone else gone through this?

For context, mid twenties and have been dating my SO for 1.5 years

We are also separated by different states so that helped concealing it part

Ha Im half wondering if I should have done that. I decided to be honest with them, and they quoted the Bible to me about how God disapproves

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