Ooof went to a happy hour last night and forgot to code switch. While telling a story I said "and I told this n---- that he had the wrong house." The silence was deafening... lmao thank god there were a few Black attorneys who laughed! Should I mention it or drop it? It was after work but still.

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I had this happen to me in law school. I followed it up right at that moment with “oops, sorry for the slur - I promise I love black people, my parents are even black!” Then everyone started laughing. I’m not sure of the demographics (age mostly) of your audience, but if you didn’t address it right there then I wouldn’t bring it back up unless you feel that there’s a possible issue brewing.

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The scream I scrumpt

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This was me at a happy hour with my old firm during my last month at the firm. They were like I never seen you act like this before lol

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I’d let it go! They probably didn’t know to react and didn’t want an HR complaint. Best believe when it’s only them, they will sing along to rap songs, “n”word included and secretly discuss that they feel they should be allowed to say it. That’s why I avoid work events though. Can’t get too comfortable with my coworkers. They probably aren’t even thinking about it by now.

But this does remind me of a funny story. I was engaged to the whitest of white dudes. Like khakis and boat shoes or vans level white. I was the only woman of color he’d ever dated. He did something to piss me off (can’t remember what)… and I started clapping between every word because he made me that hot… like out of character level mad, “N—ga 👏 please. You 👏 got 👏 me 👏 f—ed up. What was the reason?”

It had previously been a very heated argument. Then he started smiling. I’d never acted that way before. I’m not one to argue. I said “N-ga what you smiling for?” Then he started laughing. That made me madder. He then said, “it’s just that…. Well you called me the “n” word. You’ve never done that before. I’m part of the family now.” He died laughing. 🤣 that ended that argument but I got too comfortable and forgot who I was speaking to for a moment. Maybe your coworkers secretly felt the same. You also got comfortable with your colleagues (which is good actually) but you just forgot for a second that they don’t know how to react to that word.

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Lolllll. What benefit comes from mentioning it again ?

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😂😂😂

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I’m screaming 😂😂😂😂

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Lmao 😂 So many close calls but I’ve never made the leap with anyone besides my spanish paralegals. But it be going down in my head tho

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☠️ Absolutely do not bring this up. I can’t imagine anything good coming of it.

I’m still wiping tears away five minutes after reading this 😂. Thank you so much for this laugh.

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I’d dare them to say anything about it. Too funny. 😅

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💀💀💀

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Lol just drop it pls

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I'm deaaadd... Just the laugh I needed to start my Friday morning 😆

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There are so many variables to consider in whether to readress it. It would have been better to address it quickly immediately after saying it, though. (So nonblack parties to the convo wouldn't think that it's okay to say it/open season . . . Like I said, many variables) If you are not black amd although it may be uncomfortable, I'd definitely address it with the black people who were part of the conversation if you don't have that type of close relationship with them. You don't want things to escalate in the office/drama.

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Black y'all, I hope if someone wasn't and used it they wouldn't feel comfortable posting that here?? Lmao.

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Oooffff I would really just drop it. I would assume they have already just forgotten about it.

🤣😄 Cackling

They say the same thing though or worse.

Nothing should happen though.

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