So my boss has started avoiding me after I asked her for a transfer to California due to personal reasons.. I was doing really well at work, and I was her favorite when I was running big projects for her.. but there is a sudden change now.. and she has stopped asking me to do anything.. she did say that she worries I will leave the job once I move to california. But if she continues ignoring me like this, what other choice do I have. She assured me she will get me the transfer but this is petty.

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Just hang on, grin and bear it and get yourself that transfer, end of nice terms from your side and once you move it sounds like you won’t have to work with her. That’s super unfortunate that she’s flipped her personality on you and not right that she’s doing it.

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Had a chat with her today after her ignoring me for weeks and she went on and on how I am the best candidate she has interviewed in 20 years of her career and she hasn’t slept since days because she is worries about my transfer.. I mean this is totally fake behavior… i just sucked up.. she is giving me a hard time..

Does your manager need to approve it vs HR?

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It’s both.. and also her skip level manager..

Hi!
Have you considered having a friendly chat with her, something along the lines of
“I feel like something´s changed between us since our talk about my possible move to California. I understand you mentioned how you worry about me leaving the company but that´s not my intention. What do you think?”
At times, even the simplest question/conversation can have the biggest impact.
All the best :)

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Thank-you! Yeah, I could try that in our next 1:1.

Not sure I believe her. She may just be trying to freeze you out.

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