At what point do you walk away when bosses or team values do not align with your personal values? Boss told me I’m too soft and I should be prepared to burn bridges if it’s a good outcome for company.

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The moment you start compromising your personal core values it’s to late. If you are feeling this way now you should leave. There are plenty of great organizations and bosses who won’t ask you to betray who you are.

Sorry, OP. Hope it gets better.

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There are a number of such remarks or things that he has said to me that don’t sit well with me personally. I don’t think I’ll thrive in this environment.

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