Started going to therapy early 2020 and had a few sessions where I really felt like I made a breakthrough and left feeling like I was on cloud 9 after every session. I stopped going (it was the through school and I graduated/covid happened) but recently started again with a new therapist. I am not feeling that “breakthrough” feeling after any of our sessions and see it as more of a burden than helpful - is this a sign that maybe this therapist isn’t for me?

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It could be that you’ve just worked your way through the low hanging fruit of your psyche. But personally I’ve never had an effective therapy session end with me feeling like I was on cloud 9. Maybe it’s the first therapist that wasn’t great.

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What makes a therapy session feel effective to you?

Yes. I had to go through 3 therapists before finding the best fit (the 3rd one)

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Yes. I would say that either the therapist or there approach isn’t right ans to try another

Sample a lot of therapists

I would say it is the therapist. I had a feeling like that and looking back, she wasn’t a good fit for me.

Thanks all - next question- How to break up with a therapist?

Maybe before you stop going or cancel all your sessions, you try to discuss it with your therapist? You can talk process and expectations and goals, then see if you can get to what you want. It’s worth noting that your therapist has been trained to be a therapist, you haven’t been trained to be in therapy. You might just need to level set rather than ghost your therapist.

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