Struggling to deal with anger after a coworker I've supported in the past has back stabbed me on a long standing client. I just know I'm going to have a sleepless night. Why are people so selfish?

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I feel you!!! I've been back stabbed by someone I loved and supported at work. I couldn't stop thinking about it. I don't think they mean it, in their own twisted way. I always try to find out what their side of the story is. I think we all have different life experiences which make us act in certain ways others might not understand. We all have our internal battles people aren't aware of. Might be worth an honest and open conversation! I remember I pissed off someone one day at work without realizing it. I'm thankful she confronted me about it and we explained things to each other. We became super close after that incident. Good luck!

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I agree having an open conversation with them about it. That's the best way to move forward 🙏

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It's tough, but I stopped thinking of my colleagues as friends. There's nothing friendly about business, especially in our industry. It's cutthroat, and everyone will choose themselves over you. That's not friendship.

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Self preservation is a survival instinct. It takes enormous effort to feel kindness towards those who hurt you, but I am certain is not about you, it's about them. Kill them with kindness by acknowledging what happened and how it made you feel and asking for their side so you can understand them and hear their motivators too.

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