Struggling to take the first step and stop drinking and smoking. How did you guys do it?

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It’s often recommended to not give up too many vices at once, and there’s a saying that “we address our addictions in the order that they’re killing us.”

I tried a lot of thing to control my drinking, but ultimately found that I needed to quit entirely, which, as it turns out, I couldn’t do on my own. I’m closing in on 7 years sober, which for me, is only possible with the help of AA.

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I’d recommend using a nicotine substitute or patch if you’re going to try to do both at the same time.

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Love nicotine mints from Amazon

I tried to do it on my own for years, could even stack up months or a year +, but I've only been happy being "dry" with the help of AA. I have no desire to drink anymore.

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Get rid of it in your house. Don’t be around it until ur on firm ground

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This might sound cliche, but I stopped drinking by thinking of all of the things I would gain by giving one thing up.
Better sleep, better health, better relationships, more money (saved by not drinking). Quitting was incredibly daunting at first and you'll probably need to replace that behavior with a different one (going for a walk, crossword puzzles, etc.), but it's 1,000% worth it and gets easier with time.

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