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She cheated on you.
Is there some redemption for a 12 year relationship... Have you tried joint therapy?
Man this sounds like a good story. When does the next season come out. I binged the first season and the ending really has all of us hooked "only problem is she does actually exist..."
I brought popcorn, y’all
I want the full story, starting from 2013. Maybe even a decade or so before that to fully understand you as a person and every single details about your life.
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The poor dude probably went to pee and decided to vent out and already went back to bed with his partner. we’ll have to wait until tmw
The venting was too long for a pee, more likely a poo, but the timing of the day is highly unlikely for a poo.
“She spent the night at a hotel with an old fling but told me she was with a gf”. My dude, where the F do you get overthinking from?
Make a decision- stay with a cheater (a serial one, sounds like) , or leave and save your self respect.
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Sorry you going through this op, do continue…
Nah just trying to figure out how to tie them all together... My ex is on this site... secretly hoping she sees it and realizes how much she fucked up. Long story short, she was my person, checked all the boxes, understood me, finished each others sentences, the same sense of humor, the black sheep of our families, the list could go on for ever. After enough ppl convincing me the age part wasnt a big deal i finall asked her out. We got a house moved in and things were good for awhile.. Then her attitude towards me started to change slowly but surely.. becoming more and more rude, condesending bitchy for no reason.. naturally i tried to make her feel important and build her up and nothing worked... Come to find out she had bipolar and never told me... I did anything and everything i could to help her so she didn't feel broken or like damaged goods. I read books, went to counseling, talked about our feelings, had a code word, made schedules etc... Things wold get better for a day or two then she would go right back to her old self. From day one I put her on a pedesil. Not only was she fun, smart, successful, had her own place, car, money etc.. she was exactly who I was looking for physically. I honest to god thought i was the luckiest man alive. At the time I was self employed and my business was doing very well, I was 21-22y/o and wasn't working every day, could go where i wanted when i wanted could buy things with out worrying. Little did i know that my dream girl was exactly that, a dream. She said all the right things and did all the right thinigs, when a red flag would come up or some guy would message her something damning or call her late at night shed always have a convienient excuse.. It wasn't all the time but, often enough where my gut started to thing somethings off...Her only saving grace is that we were together all the time/ everynight. I wasn't over protective or possessive of her, if she told me she had something to do, she went. Or if she had a work meeting, so be it. If she had to go on a work trip I didn't question her... Of course she always said all the right things that shed never cheat and I was her first/ only true love... That no one not even her own family made the same effort I did to understand her mental illness etc. She truly was my lobster. Now fast forward to 2022, she turns 43 and weird things start happening... An old bf messages me out of nowhere telling me that i better appreciate her and how great of a person she is etc etc, the random guys wanting to catch up seem to be more and more frequent....OH and btw, 90% of the ppl who messaged her were married with kids them selves... I had her phone and saw the deleted messages she had with some random guy, he flew into town for a bachelor party, got a hotel for them and she went and spent the night... The only problem is she claimed she was doing all that with a gf of hers that she went to college with... only problem is she does actually exist...
congratulations on getting the divorce. Huge painful step. Time heals my friend. Hope you get there soon.
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I for sure want to hear the whole story
She has been cheating on you for a long time. You’ll never get that trust back. It was not just a one time mistake.
End it. It will be awful but you’ll be ok and so will she. You can’t get back the time you lost. Don’t try to save it.
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I think you did all great things working through her Bipolar. Bipolar is tough to deal with. You did everything you could. You did it all right, you are a good man for that. But, the bish ain’t loyal, time to move on. For her ex reaching out telling you to treat her right only tells me that she is venting to people outside of your relationship about you. Some one sided story to gain sympathy. It’s the lack of respect and the disloyal cheating bs. Let her toxic self go.
Same here
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This doesn’t sound like someone who would be your person.
Dude, I was in a relationship with a toxic woman like this. She was older than me, more well travelled, could speak five languages and she was gorgeous for her age. As a young person she was a stunning beauty, so in her mid 40s she was still a knockout. The problems started when I moved in and she slowly started chipping away at me, separating me (or trying to) from friends, family, acquaintances and especially any female friends. I tried man, because I came into the relationship with earnest intentions. She would flirt with other men in front of me and then try to put me down oublicly, and gaslight me into believing that I was the problem. Eventually she started making up stories and telling people that I was hitting her. It took me a couple years of therapy to leave that woman. She texted and called me hundreds of times a day. To this day I'm so happy I escaped. That said, I wish her well and respect and love what we had. Something in me chose that relationship, but it was toxic. You can't fix toxic. You can only grow brave enough to leave.
No, but we were probably the same profile of dude, with the same vulnerabilities. I broke up with that woman in 2010. Thank god.
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Half way through I was going to ask if she was on medication b/c it’s done wonders for my sister who has bipolar disorder. Then I read the last part 😞… you’ve done everything you can and I’m so incredibly sorry that happened. If it was me I’d end it and move on with my life. You deserve better.
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