Hi Fellow Moms/Wives!❤️
Very taboo question.

Anyone else have a hubby with a very low sex drive? I initiate most of the time and it really makes me feel neglected. I have talked to him about it but I think we just have different views on how to feel connected? I think once every 2 weeks is harsh. I prefer 3x-4x a week but he says that is a lot. Am I crazy to expect of this?

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The word "hubby" is the most cringe word ever invented.

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You hate your life that much that you had to comment this 😊

Not at all. It’s actually a positive thing! Most guys would welcome this.

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I've been in the same boat for a few years as a wife with a higher drive, but for us it's a hormonal issue. My husband has gone through some minor medical issues (and I suspect depression but it was never diagnosed) and due to low testosterone he just isn't that interested. It took a lot of work on both our parts and we've compromised to where it's now 2-3x a week. I'd ideally like more sex and he would probably be fine with less but this is a frequency we can both live with without feeling either used or resentful. It has been tough, but I think we might be getting over it now so I'll tell you what worked for me.

I think the number one key is trying to be respectful and understanding of each other. Treating him like he's a problem will only drive him further away, so trying to see things through his eyes can help a lot.
For us, I was eventually able to let go of the idea that this was something he was intentionally doing/he wasn't into me anymore. For his part, he trained himself to be more mindful of remembering to make it happen when it had been more than a few days. I know it's cliche, but communication is key here. You can also rebuild some intimacy just through more casual cuddles and non-sexual physical touch (hugs, hand holding, etc). It sounds corny, but it does help to normalize touching in a way that paves the way for ~more~.

Good luck, I hope y'all can turn it around!

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Not crazy! Have you tried talking to him about this?

“I have talked to him about it”

OP, how old is he?

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Noo.Its not a crazy thing

Maybe get his testosterone levels checked to see if they are abnormally low

Not necessarily crazy, but each relationship dynamic is different. There are countless variables that may be impacting this element of your marriage. It could be him, or it could also be you. Perhaps couples counseling would help.

I’m a male and in the reverse situation with my wife so I feel your pain.

I wouldn’t have the energy for 3-4x a week anymore and two years ago I was at 7-10x a week. You guys should try to find a compromise but I don’t think it’s unreasonable of either of you to be unwilling/unable to meet the other entirely.

Does he get enough sleep?

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I feel the same but with my wife . It’s the opposite where I’m always initiating and unless I start it could be weeks and weeks without any intimacy .

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